In part one, I discussed what many people think about adoptees and birth parents searching. Let's talk now about others searching.

Adoptive Parents

Many adoptees might be pleased that their adoptive parents want to search for them. I would imagine that would vary depending on their ages. Other adoptees feel that a search is up to them at any age and might not appreciate any efforts that adoptive parents might make as far as searching on their behalf.

I imagine most adoptees would appreciate their adoptive parents knowing that contact with their birth families could be positive for them. Since many adoptees express concerns about their adoptive parents not understanding their need to search, I would think it would be a relief to have an adoptive parent who encourages a search.

Most birthparents I know would approve of any efforts that adoptive parents might make to locate them. They would be thrilled to know that the adoptive parents are supportive of a reunion.

Siblings

Some believe that the relationships that develop between reunited siblings are often as significant or in some cases even more important than those with birth parents. There is less baggage involved in siblings relationships and that is a very positive factor.

As for whether or not siblings have the "right" to search or not, I haven't heard too many discussions on this topic. My guess is that most people might understand less the need to reconnect with siblings. I also believe that perhaps fewer people might sanction a sibling search. On the other hand, many people might feel that siblings have a right to know each other.

Others

As for grandparents, aunts, cousins and other less primary family members, again, I suspect that fewer people would agree that they have the right to search. This might be particularly true in regard to concerns about the possibility of invading the privacy of either the adoptee or birth parent.

To Be Continued......................