Adoption is a life long experience and the issues that come along with it can be very difficult. Each person copes with adoption issues in a unique way. Whether you are an adoptee, adoptive parent, birth parent, sibling or other family member, you may feel anger, guilt, shame, insecurity, fear, powerlessness, despair and depression. You are not alone in all of these emotions and there are people who can help you understand them and support you as you work through it.

Family relationships may change as individuals react differently to the adopted life experience. The life long issues of adoption may lead to financial stress, family discord, divorce, alcoholism, and a variety of other problems. Everyone has a different reaction and a different timetable for healing. It is important to grieve and acknowledge the impact of your experience.

Insecurity is one emotion that, I, as an adoptee, have had a difficult time over coming. Since I have completed my search I am more secure, however, there are still times that I find myself feeling insecure. One of the differences now is that I am more aware when I am feeling insecure. There was a time that I spent a lot of energy working on feeling more secure in myself and my relationships with others. One way that I did this was that I made time for myselft, cleared my head and done much serious soul searching to answer the question "What is insecurity?"

Time will pass, climates will change, and seasons will come and go. Everything goes on changing, nothing can be taken for granted; this is insecurity. I want everything to be certain, permanent; but have never thought what would be the outcome of things if everything is permanent.
Never believing anything is truly there to stay because nothing ever has been. Always weary about forever or even a long time. Never trusting in anyone because of always having been shown dealing with fake people, and seeing false motives. Unsure even of oneself and afraid the mind might deceive itself. Never certain, satisfied, content, or at ease. These factors all contribute to feelings of insecurity.

Insecurity keeps people fresh, alive, and adventurous -- knowing that things can be changed. Even without their changing them, they are going to be changed. The whole training of our minds is that we are made afraid of insecurity, and our whole life we are trying for safety. Financially, politically, religiously -- in every dimension we want to be secure.
Guilt, shame and self-esteem are interconnected. The more insecure a person feels, the more unsure they are of their decisions. Therefore, the more guilt they may feel.