Often in a reunion relationship, one party wants or needs more than the other one. The needier party probably wants more contact, more attention or more closeness. Some people are able to reevaluate their needs and be satisified with less. In reunion relationships, I think it is always wise to remember than any relationship at all provided more than you may have expected. For others, that is more difficult.

What else constitutes a good reunion? Some parties attend conferences and present talks together, but I believe that those relationships are the exception and not the rule. Reunitees who share their relationships with others at a conference are most likely doing do because they have achieved some success and want to share what they have learned with others.

In the beginning of a reunion relationship, communication is often difficult and strained. Both parties are so afraid to disturb the peace that they walk on eggshells. The best relationships get past that and learn to communicate with each other honestly and openly.

Some reunions never manage to be able to take the risk to open up with each other. Therefore, the relationships remain surface ones with little depth. Even in the best reunion relationships, there is still some reserve and hesitancy even after many years.

Most people in reunion relationships have a nagging fear that the relationship may not last. Although many relationships have periods in which there is no contact, most reunion relationships do endure. The success of a relationship depends on many factors, not the least of which is being motivated to continue the relationship even when it is difficult.

Although in a regular relationship you might give up when it gets too hard, there is less chance that you will give up on a reunion relationship. The stakes are too high. Most people consider retaining their reunion a priority, and are determined to stick with it no matter what happens.

A good reunion is one that satisfies both parties most of the time. There is mutual honesty and respect, and good communication. Both parties need to be committed to the relationship and consider it a priority.