This week was Valentines Day and one of the things I realized is that Valentines Day isn’t just for lovers. It is for everyone that we love and care about. This is something that I didn’t always think or truly feel before I met my husband. Who by the way, treated me very good for Valentines Day.

A few weeks ago, I received an email from a young woman who saw the registry that I maintain online and felt that there could be a match between herself and a natural mother listed on the registry. I received this initial email 2 or 3 days before my birthday.

I have tried for several weeks now to reach and speak with the natural mother to no avail. I have left her messages at the number that I know was correct even though she had registered with the registry in 1996.

After each phone message I left for this natural mother I was vague in what I was saying. I had no idea who would retrieve the message or whether her family knew that she had become pregnant out of wedlock and relinquished a daughter to adoption approximately thirty six years ago.

After not receiving a response from this natural mother I was really torn as to what to do. After almost a months time I was feeling like I had to make a decision in regards to the information and the person who was searching. In my heart I felt this was a match. All the information the adoptee was telling me matched with the information that I had in regards to the natural mother registered. So, based on my feelings, ethics, morals, and the policy of the registry, I had chosen to release the natural mothers contact information to the adoptee. That very evening I sent the email with the information.