Trust can be an issue for triad members. There are probably a handful of people that I can trust because I believe that trust is earned. I have learned some valuable lessons about trust. I have heard triad members say that they have trust issues, that they don’t trust easily and that it is hard to be open.

We all go through struggles in life. Some endure more than others. Personally, trust has been the hardest issues in my life that I have ever had to deal with and come to terms with on a more positive level. For me, not trusting was my shield. It was a way to protect myself from being hurt. Then, there was a period in my life where I think I went to the opposite extreme and trusted a little too much. I had to find the balance, where and when to balance trust evenly to make it work for me. It took me time to figure this out and helped me to learn that trust does not come easy and it is earned. In other words, trust is time. I can’t trust every single person I know or meet but I also can’t give up on trust.

I try to be a good judge of character and believe in myself. Usually my first impressions of someone are right. If I meet someone and it feels like we have known each other for our whole lives but there is doubt in a person I have learned that it is my heart telling me to be careful.

People come in and go out of our lives. We lose friendships, or closeness with family and relatives. Choosing who I trust isn’t based on a face or a name but rather the person that they are. It is those that you can tell secrets too and those who stand by you through thick and thin that are your real friends, family, and loved ones. Those are the ones that you know are true.

As human beings we think we know people by communicating with them through email, phone calls, letters but we really do not know. Trust is something that is bond between two people. When I decide to trust someone I feel like I am putting a piece of my life into their hands. Trust is sacred to me. I know it is trusting is right when the people I trust in my life stay through thick and thin.

I have made mistakes in my life and have been crushed again and again because of the them. I don’t consider it a waste of time because if I didn’t have these experiences I would not have learned anything from them. For the longest time I blocked trust out. I just wouldn’t let it happen but there was a point in my life that it was forced. I had to decide to do or don’t do it. I chose to do it and for me learning to trust the right way has enriched my life greatly.