"And the phone gets silent and she starts crying and she calls me El Nino, the baby, the baby is back."

Searching for Birthparents is a newspaper article about a man adopted from Honduras. The urge to search came for him when his son Miguel was born. The birth of a child for an adoptee is often a time when thoughts of birth parents surface, and sometimes spark a search.

Fortunately, this young man did have some information about his birthparents. He had their names, and after gathering enough information, he flew to Honduras to search for her. He ended up finding some of her family who called her to let her know about his search for her.

The odd twist of fate in this story, however, is that his birth mother now lives in New Jersey, which is where he grew up. The day after he found his birth mother's family in Honduras, she flew there from New Jersey to meet with her son.

The quote below is from an adoptee who is connected with a group that helps other adoptees search. His comment is a common one among adoptees that search. Reunion can bring adoptees closer to their adoptive families.

Ted says he has no regrets about finding his birthmother. In fact, the search had an unexpected happy ending. "I think if anything it's made me closer to my adoptive family.

The idea that reunions bring adoptive parents and their children closer is one that I have heard often. This can especially be the situation when adoptive parents encourage and support their adult child throughour a search and subsequent reunion. Reunions between adoptees and birth parents rarely seem to have a negative effect on their relationships with the adoptive parents as some expect that they might.

Further Resources:

An Adoptees Open Letter to His Birthmom

Adoption Week E-magazine Speak Out





Photo by Jan Baker 2007