My natural mother died in 1992 and I found her in 1993. I grieved for someone I never knew. I had to accept that I would never know her truth. Through the years, I have found much comfort in helping others. By helping others has helped me to stay focused and reminds me that my true goal in my search was to find my roots and why I was adopted. I didn’t expect nothing more or nothing less. Unfortunately, with finding a grave there are still unanswered questions but what I did find out was the truth. It may not have always been pleasant but then again is there a pleasant reason for adoptions of any kind? We have all seen good and bad reunion but have you ever seen a pleasant reason for why some one was adopted or why a natural mother relinquished to adoption?

I personally am content with the fact that I don’t have to wonder what my birth name was or who my natural family is anymore. I don’t have an updated medical history. I only know of the iillness ;my natural mother had when she died and the various illness of the ones still alive and what others died from.

There are many natural mothers out there and I have met many of them. As an adoptee I would be honored and blessed to have a natural mother like any one of them. These natural mothers are so loving and so sincere. It is important for some natural mothers to put aside their own feelings and concentrate on the way their child feels about who she is and where she comes from. Some if not most believe the adoptee deserves to know these things and it should not be expected that the adoptee may one day come searching for answers but accepted that they will.