You may be having feelings concerning your adoption situation and aren’t sure if they are normal. One thing to remember is that no matter what anyone says you area strong person. You may not feel like it right now if you are on the emotional roller coaster of reunion but you will work your way though and feel strong again.

When I started my adoption search there were folks who were against it. I felt as if I had grown up being lied to and treated different than those around me for whatever reason. I was the type of person to take the opportunity to stand up to ignorance and spread my wings and let those who were against my searching know that they were wrong and that they are the ones with a problem.

My natural mother kept me a secret and hid my existence and took all of the information pertaining to me, my conception, and her decision to place me for adoption to the grave with her. I felt as if I was an adult and I had the right to search for and seek the information I deserved to know. I am fully aware that when I was adopted things were different and natural mothers were lied to and told certain things in an effort for a bureaucratic, governmental, or private agency to have access to a baby or child simply for the end result of making money.

Not all agencies or people dealing with adoption are or were like this. I just strongly feel that it is not fair for anyone involved when an adoption is surrounded with lies, lies, and more lies. The natural mother, adoptive parents, or adoptee doesn’t benefit from that.

Helping others and giving back to the adoption community is a way for triad members to cope with reunion. You can become a search angel and help others. For me I didn’t have to deal with the pain of reunion.