Blogger Heather just wrote a terrific blog which made me think about priorities in relation to adoption. She put into words some thoughts that I have been pondering lately. The wonderful book, "The Surprise Child" reinforced my belief that if a woman is unexpectedly pregnant, it is possible to shift gears, embrace your pregnancy and child and lovingly raise your child. While it may not always be feasible, I think it is something to strongly consider. If a woman is considering adoption mainly because it is not the ideal time to parent, I believe that she might consider shirting her priorities.

As I was reading Heather's blog about priorities, I began to think about my youngest son and his determination for his life to stay on course as he dictates. The son that I raised is mostly like his serious and studious physician father. Fortunately, he does have my sense of humor and playful side too though. However, he is quieter than I am and more focused. After he started college, he began really buckling down, intent on achieving the goals he wanted to accomplish.

He had his life all planned out. After he graduated from college, he worked for a few years and saved to be able to afford graduate school. After grad school, he planned to work for a few years, then get his career established and next get married. For several years, he was right on track and everything happened exactly as he had planned.

Then, he met the beautiful young woman who is now his wife. After several years of being together, he proposed to her. He did have to shift his priorities and change his game plan somewhat. His "plan" was to marry after he finished grad school and had been working for a few years.

Instead, my son and his wife married shortly after they both finished grad school. He knew that this wonderful young woman might not be willing to wait as long as his "plan" dictated. Therefore, he shifted his priorities and married the woman he loved as he did not want to lose her.

To Be Continued.......................................