In this post, I introduced you to a new blogging birth dad. I mentioned that in his second post that he asked some questions that I decided to answer via a post. As he is in a new reunion, like most of us who have traveled his path, he probably has many questions.

"Since the reunion started the thoughts of it can be very obsessive – does the obsession every slow down?"

For most of us, the obsessive part of reunion does eventually calm down. During that period when we are so thoroughly fixated on our child or birth parent, it is rather disconcerting. Many people wander if it is normal to be that absorbed with our newly found child or birth parent. It most definitely is. Thanks goodness it does get better!

"Do support groups help in the long run?"

Personally, I think support groups can help a great deal. Many people find support groups very beneficial. I have heard some people say that you can sometimes feel stuck, and find it hard to progress if your support group is negative. You might also consider that you may absorb the feelings and opinions of a support group, but, keep an open mind. You should listen to the opinions in the group and then form your own opinions. However, I think you just need to be aware of those possibilities. In general, most support groups help triad members and are invaluable.

"Does blogging help adjust to ones feelings about adoption?"

Wow, good question! I think most of us would respond with a resounding, "Yes." Getting your story out can be an excellent way to aid in your own personal healing. Blogging and interacting with others and hearing a wide variety of feedback can be very helpful. One of the best thing about blogging is that it provides an opportunity to connect with others and find out that you are not alone. It is refreshing to know that many others feel as you do and have many similar issues. Reunion can be a very confusing time, and hearing about other reunions can help you in your own reunion.

For More About Search and Reunion:

Search Tips for Parents.

For More About Birth Fathers:

My Birth Father's Legitimate Grief.