It is my understanding that the supporters of Real Daddies feel that the laws should change so that paternity can be contested at any time. In other words, if a DNA test proves they are not the father they believe they should be relieved of support obligations.

I think that it is safe to say that most of us in the adoption community are supporters of truth in adoption and similar issues. Do children benefit if the father is duped by the mother? Is ignorance bliss? Is this a price that has to be paid to keep a family in tact? What happens if the child needs to go through blood testing for any number of reasons as an adult? Or what if the child decides to put his or her DNA in one of these family tree projects? Of course no one could have anticipated this but what happens to the happily ever after?

With technology changing don’t you think that genetic testing for something that we don’t even know of today will exist sometime during the lifetime of the babies that are born say this year or even last year.

I don’t think that the getting caught side of this is the real stressor but rather a practical and realistic consideration. For those of us in the adoption community isn’t more about the lie? Aren’t we fighting for all to have the right to learn of the truth about our origins?

What sparked this conversation is Anna Nicole Smiths baby. Who is the babies father? Is it Howard K. Stern? Is it the estranged boyfriend? Is it her deceased husbands whose sperm was frozen? Now, here is one that I heard this weekend. Folks speculating are saying that the men who are challenging paternity are not the father and the father is (I hate to say this) Anna Nicole’s son.

Now, this frenzy over Anna Nicole Smiths baby is really kind of sad. The idea alone that these gentlemen who are claiming to be the babies’ father had unprotected sex in the right time frame. Not only that, who is concerned about the child? Let me rephrase that genuinely concerned with the child?

Isn’t the bottom line that we all deserve the truth about our origins? Isn’t it the right of the individual? If the child has the truth so will the husbands and the alleged fathers and everyone knows the truth.