For adoptees, reunion can resolve many unanswered questions as it does for birth family. I believe that for adoptees the need to find information is often as significant as the need to reconnect. Some adoptees say that the “need to know” is more important than the desire to seek a relationship.

There are other adoptees who feel certain that they want only information, and not a relationship. I think it is premature to decide whether you want contact and/or a possible relationship unless you take the risk and meet your birth family member.

I feel sorry for those who summarily dismiss or refuse contact. Fear probably is the most popular reason that prevents most people from being willing to take the risk. At the very least,I believe that it is worth meeting your birth family member at least a few times before deciding on whether or not you want to have a relationship with them.

For those who refuse contact, I believe that they are missing some closure (and sometimes alot more) that nothing but reunion can provide. Some adoptees say that there is no void for them or a need to reconnect. I know that many eventually many change their minds, but, some never do. I wonder what causes such varying degrees of feeling on the subject of reunion?

Reunion can answer many of the questions that adoptees often have strong needs to know and understand. Who do I look like? Do I have siblings? Why was I relinquished? Does my birth mom miss or love me? Does she think of me? Who are my birth relatives and what are they like? What did they contribute to my personality and my identity?

A lot can be said for knowing the truth – whether it is good, bad or somewhere in between. Does the truth really set you free? I don't know that it does that, but. However, knowing the truth can often go a long way towards providing some peace and resolution.