Another Law & Order episode centered around a young woman who had disappeared after her parents were killed and they believed she was having an affair with a married man. The story line turns out that the man was her natural father who was still having an affair with the natural mother after 20 years. The story ended that the natural parents arranged for the adoptive parents to be killed so the adoptee could inherit the three million dollars from her adoptive family and were then the natural parents were going to arrange for the adoptee to be killed as well. The natural father had not signed relinquishment papers so he would become the beneficiary of the adoptees estate.

A recent episode of With A Trace we watched had a kid who disappeared and they discovered he was a young adoptee whose birthday had just passed and normally his is a happy kid and found his natural father. Although the person he found wasn’t his natural father because the agents on the show found out he had died and instead the person the adoptee found was a child molester.

These three show examples are basically saying three things. The first being that open records are bad because angry adoptees will kill people; the second is that searching is band because bad things will happen and the third is that natural parents are just bad in general.

Now I may be over simplifying it a bit but boy do I wish I could write a show that gets the point across of what adoption triad members truly go through with adoption search and reunion. Shouldn’t viewers see triad members going through the honeymoon session and still survive, grow closer to the adoptive family and the natural family and ultimately finds a way to incorporate both families into their lives.