At some point in your communications you will both likely reach a point where you feel that you would like to meet in person. This could be soon after the initial contact or it may be several years later. Everyone is different and some even prefer to meet without the initial exchange of written information. Some also may decide not to go as far as a meeting and stop at the exchange of letters. If an intermediary is involved he or she can provide support and discuss what is happening in the reunion and the direction it is or may take.

Some prefer the first meeting to be arranged with or through and intermediary and others prefer to arrange it between themselves. Either way, it can be easier if the first meeting takes place on neutral ground. If an intermediary is involved, they may be able to provide a private room for the first meeting. A suitable alternative to meet is at a pub or a hotel. Geography will also play a part in your plans and you may decide to meet someplace half way that both parties know. It is important that wherever you choose offers some privacy and is neither too noisy or too crowded.

Noone can predict the outcome of a reunion or how it will develop and evolve. Each reunion is unique. The premise is the same for all where it is about coming together of strangers who have a deep and intimate bond that was formed in a previous relationship.

The relationship is remembered by the natural mother as well as the feelings that she experienced at that time. The adoptee is now an adult and more than likely will have a strong need to know what happened in the early days of his or her life. If the natural father was involved in the decision making process he may also have feelings and memories from that time. The other side of this is that some natural fathers were not aware of the pregnancy or adoption but are still willing to accept they fathered a child and may request DNA testing for verification.