One of the first gifts my son gave me was a framed photo taken of him during a triathalon in Chicago that he had done. On the card that came with it, he said, "...I couldn't have done it without your healthy genes." The triathalon included three events, swimming, running and biking. I used to be a runner and still bike – both sports that my son has done as well. I try hard to stay fit as my son does too.

As my son and I were chatting one night on the phone, I commented on the fact that I do not have a musical bone in my body. I do not sing well, can not carry a tune and play no instruments. My son jokingly laughed and said, "Yeah, I've been meaning to talk to you about that. That's why I tracked you down, to ask about that." Then he laughed and told me that he was just joking, he said he really did not care that he was not musically inclined.

While my son does not know everything about me, and probably never will, he does know a great deal about me now. More importantly, he knows where I am and that I am only a phone call away. Now that he has had found me, if there is anything he wants to know, he knows how to reach me and can ask me anything he wants to.

He knows that nothing is off-limits, and that I will answer any questions that might arise for him. Part of why reunion is important is not always the relationships that follow. Knowing that you can find answers to questions if you need to is part of the beauty of reunion too.

My son knows where his blue eyes came from, his healthy genes, his love of nature, his thrill seeking tendencies and many other items that most people take for granted. He knows that his other mom (his adoptive mom) contributed greatly to the man he has become as well. She loved and nurtured him, took good care of him and taught him to be a responsible, sensitive and good person.

What am I most pleased that my son “knows” about me? That's easy. I am glad that he knows that I love him dearly, always have, and always will. I like to think that is good for him, and something that he needed to know.