Another reason comparing your reunion with others is a bad idea is that you can probably always find someone whose situation may have some elements that might be better than yours. However, you do not know their whole story, so, it is hard to adequately judge their relationships. Plus, you can always find some reunions not nearly as good as yours probably as well.

Do yourself a favor. Try your hardest to savor each second of your reunion relationship. Consider your time spent with your birth family member as a gift that many people are denied. Instead of trying to rate your relationship and be dissatisfied that it is not all that you wish for, remember that you are one of the lucky ones to be reunited.

Feel sorry for yourself sometimes if you need to; stifling your feelings isn't healthy. It is okay to sometimes wish for more too. Just try not to linger there too long and miss out enjoying what you do have.

I do understand that not all relationships are created equal and that some reunion relationships are unfulfilling and stressful. I have seen the pain among triad members as they struggle to make a relationship work, and I have struggled at times too. However, consider this, whatever contact you have, no matter how infrequent, it is more than you were "supposed" to have.

Mostly I feel very fortunate to have the relationship that I do with my son. I know that there are relationships with more contact, but, there are relationships too not nearly as strong and consistent as ours too. Therefore, I do not take our relationship for granted. I may whine about it occasionally, but, mostly, I accept it as it is and enjoy knowing my son immensely.

There are people who search for a lifetime and never find the person they seek. Others find a grave at the end of their journey. Therefore, if you have any kind of a relationship, thank your lucky stars and know it is a gift!