When seeking professional support from a counselor or therapist there are a few things that you can do to help yourself find the right person for you. You are looking for someone who doesn’t over emphasize the effects of adoption nor ignores its influence and effects on the lives of triad members. The ideal therapist or counselor should have knowledge of and experience with adoption.

So, you may be wondering where to start looking? You can use local adoption search and support resources. You can start with referrals from the agency that handled your adoption, a lawyer, or members of local search and support groups. You can also contact your local mental health association for referral to therapists who have indicated an interest in adoption issues.

One thing that you don’t want to do is limit yourself to psychiatrists and psychologists. Social workers, family therapists, and licensed counselors may also be able to effectively treat adoption triad members.

Once a list of therapists has been compiled you can arrange interviews. Have a list of questions prepared to ask and look for what you would expect of any professional working with you. You shouldn’t feel uncomfortable. The therapist should answer your questions with respect, trust your instincts, and expect kindness, courtesy and acceptance.

I have compiled a list of recommended questions when meeting with the therapists on your compiled list. They are as follows:

What is your experience with adoption? Ask how many years and what type of experience do they have with adoption issues as well as how many patients. You may even want to ask what issues he or she believes may effect triad members and can be helped by therapy.

Are you comfortable talking about adoption? Does the therapist appear to know how triad members think? Doe what he or she says about the adoption issues make sense and sound right to you? Does the therapist generalize about the negative impact of adoption?

What do you need to know about my family? Other family members can be critical to a triad members treatment and sometimes should be included in the plan.

How does your practice work? Ask about the practical details such as who covers the practice when the therapist is not available, appointment times, fees, and insurance coverage.