Are adoptees an arrogant group? Do adoptees tend to think of themselves as special? If they do, maybe it is because some of them were told that they were special or chose. Isn’t that true in a sense but not? In general, are adoptees lucky, the vast majority anyway? Aren’t the adoptees luckier than those children left in institutions or orphanages? Yes, there are still orphanages that exists in the USA. Aren’t adoptees luckier than the children stuck in the foster care system? Sure there are some who are or where abused by their adoptive families but who knows that statistics compared to children abused in natural families. I would think that it would be less.

Do you or the adoptees you know over analyze their friends and family? If so, do you think it comes from a paranoia from knowing that we aren’t a biological member of the family or that we were relinquished or “let go” once before. Who is to say it can’t and won’t happen again.

Do you or the adoptees you know feel of if they don’t fit in anywhere? Do adoptees even have a right to the phrase? After all, most of the books available on child rearing talk about biological families and talk about the search for self and their sense of not belonging. Is this just a part of all humanity? Is this why genealogy is such a popular hobby? Is it because non adopted folks feel the same way as adoptees? Do we just have an excuse for feeling this way?

Should adoptive parents force an adoptee to express their gratitude? Should it be any more than a natural family? Shouldn’t they be grateful to have a roof over their heads, clothes on their backs, and food in their belly? Aren’t they luckier then millions of children in this country and for that matter world wide?

Instead, shouldn’t the question be aren’t we grateful for who we were given and what we have?