Adoption reunion can spark some intense sexual feelings. This can happen in reunion natural mothers and sons, natural fathers and daughters, siblings of opposite sex, and more distant relatives. Some have engaged in a sexual relations with their natural relative while others have described experiences ranging from intense erotic feelings toward their relatives to sexual behavior such as fondling and touching. The best way to explain it is when the lost relative is met for the first time an overwhelming and complicated rush of emotions and an almost irresistible sense of falling in love. There may be a need to discover an unusual form of closeness and intimacy with their relative who had felt the same way. Another example may be feelings of an inability to keep away from the other person and a sense of having belonged together all their lives.

The attraction can arouse a sense of underlying shame and guilt, together with a feeling of rejection that may prevent communication because the emotions are too threatening to share with anyone and may be compounded by any sexual relationship resulting from the attraction.

Additional feelings of genetic attraction may be a need to touch, to spend time together, talk and share.

Some factors that can contribute to genetic attraction are as follows:

• Similar genetic makeup that can produce similarities in temperament, appearance, and other areas that are common in all natural families to a certain extent.

• Generally, triad members tend to feel more comfortable with those whose characteristics are similar to their own.

• Some professionals believe that a subconscious memory of the small of one’s natural family may be recognized and if so, could cause an actual physical reaction.

It is when the desire to consummate the relationship enters into the relations this genetic attraction becomes genetic sexual attraction

For some who experience the intense emotions genetic attraction and are contemplating crossing the line into a physical and deep emotional involvement, they break off the relationship completely or limit the relationship rather than try to talk about it. Some may be so overcome by fear of another separation that they keep silent but instead of pulling away may view a sexual relationship as the only way to keep the connection alive.

I know this is a sensitive topic but if you are experiencing genetic sexual attraction it really needs to be met head on. It is a natural human desire to be with your new found family member, and it is not unusual to react with emotion when experiencing reunion. However, if you find yourself “falling in love” or sexually attracted to a natural family member who you are in reunion with try to keep the following in mind:

Some links for more information that are available to you are as follows:

http://www.reunite.com/adoption-records/genetic-sexual-attraction.html An article by Nancy Ashe.

http://www.geneticsexualattraction.com/ Barbara Gonyo’s website. Barbara is the author of The Forbidden Love (Genetic Sexual Attraction)

Source: http://flatrock.org.nz/topics/relationships/reunions_set_off_sex_urges.htm