Forgiveness is a choice that takes courage and strength and it gives you the opportunity to become someone who has dealt with the adoption experience rather than remaining a victim of your own scorn.

Is not forgiving yourself a form of pride? If you have enacted a different set of rules at a higher set of standards for yourself over others then that is pride. When it can be found within yourself to forgive others but not ourselves are you saying that you are less capable of making a decision than others. Someone we are more intuitive, wiser, more insightful, more careful than others and without excuse and should not forgive ourselves? When someone rejects forgiveness when someone refuses to forgive themselves, what you are doing is setting yourself above others and that is pride

If is also important to those in your life that you influence to forgive yourself. The longer you avoid forgiving yourself the longer you allow yourself to harbor the feelings the feelings and suffer, the more explosive you will become, and the more apt you are to hurt others.
The reality is that you can not change what has happened. You can not go back to before you got pregnant or when you had sex. You can’t restore you life to where you were before conception. However, you can make a difference in the lives of others. You can give back some of what you have taken away by finding a way to invest your time and compassion. Forgive yourself and let the healing begin.

Forgiving yourself will change the way you live your life. You may want to say that you forgive yourself out loud. By giving yourself a voice and saying that you forgive yourself out loud can be empowering. There is power in the spoken word.