If searching there are some that feel that closed records are an inconvenience and in doing a search it did not build character as the adoptee attempted to overcome enormous obstacles.

Some feel that closed records are a violation of human rights and individual freedom. Many feel that the fact is that an adult has a right to his or her genetic origin. The adoptee never consented to the situation and would benefit not just as the age of majority but all through their life from the information that is now held secret.

Some feel very strongly that closed records are a mistake but with open records comes a responsibility for all triad members to respect the wishes of each other. These folks feel that too many demand what we want for ourselves but forget that there are other people who are involved and any conclusions should be mutual. These folks feel that adoptees must be given the opportunity to reach those mutual conclusions.

Some don’t understand why the records were closed to begin with. Only negative things can come from dishonesty. Some feel that it is a breach of our constitutional and basic human rights. Medial information is being withheld not only from the adoptee but also from the children of adoptees.

How do you feel? Does your stomach sink every time you go to the doctor and you are asked to fill out a medical history form? As an adoptee, I hate this. I hate going to the doctor and having to draw a “X” through the section of the form that pertains to my natural father. At first I felt better knowing my natural mothers medical history but the reality is that isn’t enough. You need a complete picture and for me that isn’t a reality. My natural father only exists in my mind. He is not locatable. I have tried. He isn’t even known and whether I am known is a question that I may never know the answer to.

Some day, I will share with you the story of my search for my natural father.