http://birthfamily-search.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/birth-mother-s-need-for-privacy Information for those searching for those who have been adopted or their birth families. Thu, 15 Oct 2009 22:44:32 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.4 hourly 1 http://birthfamily-search.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/birth-mother-s-need-for-privacy/comment-page-1#comment-437 westcoastbmom Fri, 19 Jun 2009 02:08:26 +0000 http://adoption-sea.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/06/05/birth-mother-s-need-for-privacy#comment-437 No one seems to care about the rights of a birth mother who does NOT want contact. Why? I got pregnant as a result of a tubal ligation failing. This was NOT my fault. I did NOT want another child. If I did, I wouldn't have gotten fixed, right? Yet, everyone is wanting me to feel bad about my choice to place, and saying it's perfectly ok for people to make rude comments and judgements about me! I want to be able to live my life and be left alone and not having fingers pointing at me at every turn. No one seems to care about the rights of a birth mother who does NOT want contact. Why? I got pregnant as a result of a tubal ligation failing. This was NOT my fault. I did NOT want another child. If I did, I wouldn’t have gotten fixed, right? Yet, everyone is wanting me to feel bad about my choice to place, and saying it’s perfectly ok for people to make rude comments and judgements about me! I want to be able to live my life and be left alone and not having fingers pointing at me at every turn.

]]> http://birthfamily-search.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/birth-mother-s-need-for-privacy/comment-page-1#comment-436 sbookie Thu, 14 May 2009 22:56:09 +0000 http://adoption-sea.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/06/05/birth-mother-s-need-for-privacy#comment-436 I understand the secretiveness from long ago--the "shame" a young woman had from having premarital sex, etc. Don't forget that even rape was considered the woman's fault! And OMG if she had gotten pregnant from that rape! That kind of shame is no longer the case most times, unless there are some deep seated religeous influences. I understand the secretiveness from long ago–the “shame” a young woman had from having premarital sex, etc. Don’t forget that even rape was considered the woman’s fault! And OMG if she had gotten pregnant from that rape! That kind of shame is no longer the case most times, unless there are some deep seated religeous influences.

]]> http://birthfamily-search.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/birth-mother-s-need-for-privacy/comment-page-1#comment-435 lacymarie Sun, 27 Jul 2008 18:06:59 +0000 http://adoption-sea.www.adoptionblogs.com/2007/06/05/birth-mother-s-need-for-privacy#comment-435 I believe that the entire "secret" aspect to adoption is scarring to not only the bmom but the adopted child. Even you have a child, even if you cant raise that child, unless the biological family poses some sort of threat, I don't understand why everything has to be so secret. This is the entire problem in the first place. I found my biological sister who was adopted without opening the birth records!!! We have rights, period!! I believe that the entire “secret” aspect to adoption is scarring to not only the bmom but the adopted child. Even you have a child, even if you cant raise that child, unless the biological family poses some sort of threat, I don’t understand why everything has to be so secret. This is the entire problem in the first place. I found my biological sister who was adopted without opening the birth records!!! We have rights, period!!

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