We know they’re out there. Biological reality. But birthfathers are the most silent members of the adoption constellation. – Birthfather.com
The network of blogging triad members just keeps growing by leaps and bounds. Dads are beginning to join in the fun too, and I think that is a terrific development. I will credit Judy, aka Nate’s Mom for mentioning this new birth dad blog which he calls Rambling B-Dad. This dad is brand new to blogging with his first post on April 6, 2007. He is in reunion with his son.
From time to time, I have had conversations with other birth dads about how scant the in-put from birth dads seems to be. However, I am expecting that more birth dads will continue coming out of the closet and into the blogging world. Many birth moms are ambivalent or hostile towards birth dads, some with good reasons, others maybe less so. However, I think when possible, both birth parents should try to make peace with each other.
Birth dads, like birth mothers, are often thought of in a negative way, and that makes it hard for them to speak out. It doesn’t help either that there is still a macho element that keeps some men from expressing their feelings. Thankfully, macho is less popular now than it used to be. Personally, I think it is highly overrated. Strong men DO eat quiche, cry and share feelings!
I think it is healthy for adopted children to know both birth parents whenever possible. There are many birth fathers who are kind, stable and loving men who miss their children and want to know them. I have had the pleasure to meet several birth fathers who want very much to be a part of their children’s lives.
Rambling B-Dad asked some questions in his second blog post, and I think I will offer some responses to him in a separate post to follow. Here’s hoping that this new dad in reunion receives a warm welcome as he begins to share his story with the blogging world!
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