April 11th, 2007
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We know they’re out there. Biological reality. But birthfathers are the most silent members of the adoption constellation. – Birthfather.com

The network of blogging triad members just keeps growing by leaps and bounds. Dads are beginning to join in the fun too, and I think that is a terrific development. I will credit Judy, aka Nate’s Mom for mentioning this new birth dad blog which he calls Rambling B-Dad. This dad is brand new to blogging with his first post on April 6, 2007. He is in reunion with his son.

From time to time, I have had conversations with other birth dads about how scant the in-put from birth dads seems to be. However, I am expecting that more birth dads will continue coming out of the closet and into the blogging world. Many birth moms are ambivalent or hostile towards birth dads, some with good reasons, others maybe less so. However, I think when possible, both birth parents should try to make peace with each other.

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Birth dads, like birth mothers, are often thought of in a negative way, and that makes it hard for them to speak out. It doesn’t help either that there is still a macho element that keeps some men from expressing their feelings. Thankfully, macho is less popular now than it used to be. Personally, I think it is highly overrated. Strong men DO eat quiche, cry and share feelings!

I think it is healthy for adopted children to know both birth parents whenever possible. There are many birth fathers who are kind, stable and loving men who miss their children and want to know them. I have had the pleasure to meet several birth fathers who want very much to be a part of their children’s lives.

Rambling B-Dad asked some questions in his second blog post, and I think I will offer some responses to him in a separate post to follow. Here’s hoping that this new dad in reunion receives a warm welcome as he begins to share his story with the blogging world!

More about birthdads:

Birthfathers and Miracles

Birthfather.com.

3 Responses to “More Birth Fathers Joining the Blogging World!”

  1. Naomi says:

    Such an important topic! My daughter Anna, like so many other children, will unfortunately never be able to contact her birth father, as he is unknown. But I hope others have that chance.

  2. JudyK says:

    I love how he starts his blog, as a response to a scathing post about birth fathers that a blogging friend of mine wrote. His response and his continued blogging will help her heal. In addition, an adoptive father whose blog I read wrote an amazing tribute to his son’s first mother just a few days later on his son’s birthday.

    So many of those men do have feelings and IMHO, it’s the strongest ones who are willing to admit it. So glad that Rambling B-dad is making himself heard and I hope that helps bring other first fathers out into the blogging world.

  3. Jan Baker says:

    Thanks for mentioning him in your blog, people often ask where all the birthdads are!

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