Although I wasn’t able to meet or have a relationship with my birth mother I do have a deep sense of knowing that we are both truly connected. Over the past several years I have realized I not only have healed but also continue to heal more and more as each day goes by. This has also helped me to access more of my own heart and allowed me to feel more. As the years pass, I miss my birth mother in a deeper way but at the same time feel more peace with her as well.

Several years ago I read a short story and what impressed me the most were the words to one sentence “A heart filled with anger has no room for love!” After pondering this sentence I realized my own anger and sorrow were taking my life for several years after finding my birth mother deceased. I couldn’t change the events of the past, but letting go of the emotions that had paralyzed and disempowered me for so long, I could be free to truly begin living life again instead of going through the motions. No matter what our troubles are, if we can put them aside for a moment, focus on possible solutions, and imagine a joyous future, we can take the first step to finding peace within.

Instead of mourning the things that were missing in my life and the things that I would never have in a relationship with my birth mother, I began to give thanks for my blessings – my health, my family, my friends, and this helped me understand that our thoughts create our reality.

I know how easy it is to feel overwhelmed and alone. At times these feelings have gotten the best of me but when this happens instead of withdrawing I decided to let go of the frustration and hurt feelings of the past and embrace the possibilities of the future. I found the more I give of myself through writing and helping others, the more peace and fulfillment I feel in my own life. I also found that by directing my mind I direct my life and ultimately create my own happiness.

I do believe that the primal wound influences all life issues. However, we not only need to comprehend through our minds but through our hearts. Anyone can learn about the primal wound but living the wound is quite a different experience than just understanding it. I have become more aware of what has been lost but also have gained the wisdom to touch more and more peace.