Love won't change is an article written by an adoptee who searched and found her birth family. She did not search because she felt unloved, had a bad childhood or even felt miserable.

In summing up why adoptees and birth parents want to be reunited, there are many reasons that can be cited by searchers. Medical need is one popularly used reason. A need for medical records is a safe reason for a search in several respects.

Telling yourself or others that you want medical records is simple. Most people understand why an adoptee searches in a quest for medical records. The medical records' need is safe for adoptees in another respect as well. An adoptee can protect their heart by acting as though a search is not that important to them, i.e. they just want medical records. I am not implying that everyone who says that their search is for medical information wants more.

A few adoptees have told me that while medical need was their original reason for a search, they found that they really wanted a great deal more. Some adoptees only discover their need to reconnect with a birth family member once they have met.

It might be quite puzzling to them that their need to spend time and get to know a birth family member is so strong. A search is often a time to get in touch with real feelings. It can be a time to allow yourself to take the risk of reconnecting with a new birth family member.

In Love Won't Change an anonymous adoptee explains that her search has little to do with her adoptive parents. Adoptive parents want their relationship with their child to remain the same, and sometimes fear it might change after a search. Sometimes it might change for the better after a reunion.

Life is about change. It is not static, but constantly evolving and changing. While an adoptee's love for their adoptive parents may not change after a reunion, change is not to be feared.