Step 2 is creating a support system to share your search and/or reunion with you.

Developing a strong support system as you navigate through your adoption search and reunion can be a crucial step in a successful experience. Although some family members may be supportive, chances are that they may not be able to comprehend what you are going through. If you educate them along the way, that can help tremendously. When you encounter family members who are not supportive and seem unwilling or interested in being educated, if it is possible to avoid discussing your search with them, do so. Otherwise, they may create more stress for you.

In addition to finding supportive family members and enlisting their help, adoption support groups can be of great benefit to an adoption searcher. Not only can these groups provide emotional support, but they also may be familiar with local search resources. Even support groups not technically devoted to helping people search will often have members with extremely useful search information.

Therapy may be something to consider during a search and reunion as well. Although I know a few people who have found therapists that are not skilled in adoption to be useful, in general, triad member therapists are generally better able to provide support. Although it may be more difficult to find triad member therapists in smaller communities, large metropolitan areas may have several. Local support groups can generally advise you as to the best adoption therapists in the area.

In addition to adoption support groups, some communities may also offer adoption therapy groups as well. Unlike most adoption support groups, therapy groups are fee based and run by licensed therapists. Most support groups are moderated by local members.

Be extra supportive and good to yourself during your search. Understand that many unexpected emotions may surface during the process. Know that this is normal and allow yourself to experience and process whatever feelings that you need to during your search. Forget the "stiff upper lip" theory and grieve, cry or do whatever is necessary. Pamper yourself, get lots of exercise and escape once in awhile with a funny movie.