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The feeling of differentness causes some adoptees to isolate themselves from family and friends and to feel they are less of a person than others. Some typical behaviors for the adoptee who feels different are chemical dependency, seeking out lowlife peers, distancing from family members, and trying on new identities that are very different from their adoptive family.
Some adoptees no matter how old they are chronologically feel that there is a part of them that will always be a child. Depending of the state of birth and adoption the fact that they will never be old enough to obtain information regarding their birth according to present laws and the closed record system. They may fee as if they are suspended in time and whenever a loss occurs it is common for the adoptee to experience the feelings of that child at the time of separation.
Some adoptees may feel empty or a vacuum inside that creates a pressure within. This empty space gives the adoptee an unreal feeling. Some may attribute the emptiness to the loss of the natural parents and find that no substitute can fill that hollow place within no matter how loving and caring. It is a feeling that something is always missing, causing some adoptees to turn inward and hindering their own ability to give and receive love.
Some adoptees may feel lost or un-rooted. They may feel as if they lack someone who looks like them. This is an essential link that connects them to the human race, born like others, rather than aliens. Most adoptees from the closed adoption era do not have this tie growing up or even a picture, so connecting with others and feeling good about themselves can be difficult. Some adoptees may decide to search, become pregnant, question for information, or have obsession about looks.
