Focus on Korea – Blogger on Her Two Mothers

April 16th, 2007
Categories: Triad Bloggers

My Two Mothers is the title of a post written by a new blogger that I just discovered. Like Mo, Korean blogger at, she is an adoptee and an adoptive parent as well. Her post "My Two Mothers" is chock full of her insights and observations. The most profound part of this post is this statement: "If you cannot see my mother in me, then you are not truly seeing me." In this post, she talks about traditionally birth mothers are so overlooked and ignored. Although some might dispute that now as there are many loud birth mother voices constantly being heard, she is right. Traditionally birth mothers have been dismissed and shuttered away as though they did not… [more]

Questions from Blogging Birth Dad

April 13th, 2007

In this post, I introduced you to a new blogging birth dad. I mentioned that in his second post that he asked some questions that I decided to answer via a post. As he is in a new reunion, like most of us who have traveled his path, he probably has many questions. "Since the reunion started the thoughts of it can be very obsessive – does the obsession every slow down?" For most of us, the obsessive part of reunion does eventually calm down. During that period when we are so thoroughly fixated on our child or birth parent, it is rather disconcerting. Many people wander if it is normal to be that absorbed with our newly found child or birth… [more]

More Birth Fathers Joining the Blogging World!

April 11th, 2007

We know they’re out there. Biological reality. But birthfathers are the most silent members of the adoption constellation. - The network of blogging triad members just keeps growing by leaps and bounds. Dads are beginning to join in the fun too, and I think that is a terrific development. I will credit Judy, aka Nate's Mom for mentioning this new birth dad blog which he calls Rambling B-Dad. This dad is brand new to blogging with his first post on April 6, 2007. He is in reunion with his son. From time to time, I have had conversations with other birth dads about how scant the in-put from birth dads seems to be. However, I am expecting that more birth dads… [more]

Blog Reviews – Reunitees and Searchers – Part 2

February 4th, 2007
Categories: Triad Bloggers

When I first began posting on this subject, I intended on only one post. However, there are enough interesting blogs to mention, I decided I needed to do at least one more post on the subject. 6. Search and Reunion by Reunited Dan is another new blog for me. His mother declined contact in November of 2005. I have not read too much yet from his blog, but enough to recommend it. The male viewpoing on reunion is less documented, so I am happy to see him blogging on the subject. 7. Reunion Writings by KimKim is the blog of a birth/first mother in Amsterdam who is reunited with L., her only child. KimKim's love for her daughter and the wounds… [more]

Blog Reviews – Reunitees or Searchers – Part 1

February 4th, 2007
Categories: Support, Triad Bloggers

Bloggers are everywhere! They write about every subject imaginable including adoption. When time permits, I enjoy hearing from other birth parents and adoptees and their experiences with search and reunion. Although I did not search, I have spoken to many people who have and it has given me many insights into the subject. Here are some blogs from those who are reunited or searching: 1. Relinquishing, Reunion and Journey to Adopting is a new blog that I just found. I know a few other birth moms who have adopted as well. It certainly affects your prospective when adopting if you are a birth mom. 2. Ramblings of a Shadow - Wraith's Realm is a dear friend of mine. He had the agency… [more]

A Blogger Close-Up

September 1st, 2006
Categories: Support, Triad Bloggers

Adoptive parents are the one part of the triad that I know least. That is changing though. Except for my one adoptive mom friend that I walk with once a week, the adoptive moms that I generally meet are on-line. Honestly, I think until I got to know more adoptive moms, I was uncertain as to how many really "enlightened" adoptive moms there were. Happily, I am discovering quite a few more than I expected. "Enlightened" in my view I suppose equates to being educated about adoption and less willing to cling to the archaic old notions. Of course, I particularly appreciate adoptive moms who display some sensitivity towards birth moms. Guess that is not much of a revelation… [more]

A Very Cool Mom

August 14th, 2006
Categories: Triad Bloggers

Gwen is one very cool Texas adoptive mom. This post of hers is honest, thought-provoking, and made me smile. I first ran into Gwen in blogland a few months ago. Amongst birth moms, she is a favorite. I think if you check out some of her blog posts, you will discover why. Check out this blog entry, and see what YOU think. This comment of hers particularly struck a chord with me. I learned that my daughter can only be closer to me when I honor her. She learned that Mom is not so afraid of where she came from and that she can trust Mom to honor her. Being a mom is a hard job with many challenges. Even under the best of… [more]

Blogger Birth Moms @ part 1

July 17th, 2006

“Grief and sadness knits two hearts in closer bonds than happiness ever can; and common sufferings are far stronger than common joys” Alphonse de Lamartine When I began blogging at, I was delighted to know that Heather Lowe was planning to blog about crisis pregnancy. Though I had never met Heather, I was intimately familiar with a booklet that she had written called What You Should Know if You Are Considering Adoption for Your Baby. This booklet is well-respected amongst birth mothers and others and is on the (Concerned United Birthparents ("CUB") website. So many of us are so grateful that this booklet now exists. Most birth mothers that I know wish that we had the benefit of such an honest booklet… [more]