Different Help Available

February 12th, 2007

Back in April of 2006 I wrote a blog about How to Find a Therapist. If you are interested in reading that blog it is at http://birthfamily-search.adoptionblogs.com/weblogs/how-to-find-a-therapist. I thought today, I would let you know about the types of help that are available to you. There are many different professionals who provide mental health services but not all of them may be available in your area. It may help to know the training and credentials of the various professionals. A psychiatrist is a medical doctor (MD) who specializes in the evaluation of mental or emotional disorders which may require medication. Psychiatrists complete medical school and follow with post-graduate training in psychiatric disorders and perhaps subspecialties in child and adolescent psychiatry. Psychiatry's primary… [more]

DMC at AAC’s Annual Conference This Year!

January 16th, 2007

It's now official! DMC, aka Darryl McDaniels, formerly of the legendary rap group Run DMC, is appearing at the American Adoption Congress Conference this year in Boston. Darryl McDaniels is scheduled to give the keynote speech this year at the conference. I had heard some months back that Darryl might be at the conference and am glad to confirm that he will be there. This year's conference is the 28th annual Conference. To check out a brochure, click here. The conference is being held March 7-10, 2007. DMC says, “I represent a multitude of people. I have to be the Moses that’s going to go and get the laws changed about the sealed records.” Nearly a year ago, I had the… [more]

New Web Site for Late Discovery Adoptees

December 12th, 2006

There are many adoptees who didn’t learn that they were adopted until later in life. Some may be in their late 30’s, 40’s, 50’s, or even older. These adoptees are referred to as Late Discovery Adoptees. Often times these adoptees learn of their adoption after the death of their adoptive parents. One of the challenges facing these adoptees is the dearth of information on discovering one is adopted later in life. Ron Morgan is an adoptee who found out he was adopted in 1991 at the age of 36. In the past 15 years he has been in contact with hundreds of other Late Discovery Adoptees and he has presented at conferences and manages an email list for Late… [more]

The CUB Retreat – Part 2 – The People

October 28th, 2006

With the exception of a few adoptees, everyone I met at the retreat had relinquished a child to adoption. There were a couple of birth/first moms who were also adoptive moms as well. At least two attorneys are active members, and I know mothers who are nurses, college professors, social workers and teachers. What else? There is a real estate agent, a flight attendant and a lobbyist. Ah, yes, I forgot Sandy Musser, our token convicted felon! After Sandy Musser was introduced, it was mentioned that she is a true example of "walking the walk" as far as family preservation is concerned. Sandy has a two year old, cherubic-like grandson with a killer smile and curly blonde hair. She had a photo of… [more]

New Florida Support Group!

September 15th, 2006

As I often talk about how important support groups can be, I have decided to begin a series to highlight some groups in specific states. Support groups can be lifesavers for those in search and reunion, or just dealing with other adoption issues. The support group that I know best is a national group called Concerned United Birthparents (“CUB”). CUB recently modified their bylaws to permit a new type of group, Support Groups. These groups have fewer administrative requirements than branches and will help to expand their across the country. To start a group, you must be a birthparent who has been a CUB member for at least six months. My dear friend Patty, who is the first birth mom that I… [more]

An Interesting Encounter – Part 3

August 7th, 2006

Part 1 and Part 2. Continuing with the friendly adoptive dad's story....Two of his children were under two years of age when they were adopted, he told me. His oldest son was adopted at age 12. He shared with me how much the son that they adopted at age 12 had matured and become a healthy, happy child. This dad touched me on so many levels as he shared his family story with me. He “gets” that it is good for his children to have contact with birth family, even if it must be limited due to the serious issues of their birth families. I learned something a great deal from this man. Over the… [more]

An Interesting Encounter – Part 1

August 5th, 2006

On Saturday, I went to sit for a short time with a adoptee who had an exhibit table at a local adoption conference. The conference was sponsored by the North American Counsel for Adoptable Children. Her table had literature, etc. for the American Adoption Congress whose stated mission is: The American Adoption Congress comprises individuals, families and organizations committed to adoption reform. We represent those whose lives are touched by adoption or other loss of family continuity. We promote honesty, openness and respect for family connections in adoption, foster care and assisted reproduction. We provide education for our members and professional communities about the lifelong process of adoption. We advocate legislation that will grant every individual access to information about his or her… [more]

An Interesting Encounter – Part 2

August 5th, 2006

Since I was not at the conference long, I did not have much of a chance to mingle and talk to people. However, a large black man enthusiastically shared his story with me and told me all about his family. He proudly showed me a picture taken at the convention with his wife and three of their five children, all of whom were adopted. His three stunningly beautiful daughters were black, as he was, but, his wife was white. This man was clearly like many of the adoptive parent bloggers at adoptionblogs.com who had large, loving and happy families. Like many adoptive parents, adoption has been a wonderful experience for him, and he seemed to relish telling his… [more]

Adoption Network Cleveland

May 3rd, 2006

Over the weekend I learned that Adoption Network Cleveland recently received the 2005 Anisfield-Wolf Memorial $20,000 Award from the Center for Community Solutions and the Cleveland Foundation. Adoption Network Cleveland was recognized for its work in finding permanent adoptive families for children and teens in Cuyahoga County. The annual award recognizes outstanding service by a nonprofit organization serving Greater Clevelanders. Adoption Network Cleveland was founded in 1998 and is an educational, advocacy, support and search group for people affected by adoption. Adult adoptees, natural parents, adoptive parents, families and professionals are welcome to contact the organization for adoption related issues. There is an annual $40 membership fee for individuals; $50 for families; and $100 for organizations. Membership with Adoption Network Cleveland includes the Adoption Network… [more]

Father Brosnan

March 29th, 2006

A couple of times I have had the pleasure of hearing Father Tom Brosnan speak at a couple of adoption conferences. The most recent was in July 2005 at the National Conference of the American Adoption Congress (AAC- www.americanadoptioncongress.org) The other was an Adoption Forum conference a few years ago (www.adoptionforum.org) I thought I would share a bit of what he spoke of in one of his keynote addresses. For those of you who don’t know who Father Tom Brosnan is, he is a roman catholic priest of the Diocese of Brookly, NY. He is not a psychologist, pastoral counselor, or a social worker. He speaks from his own adoption experience as an adoptee. He speaks of other adopted persons, birth… [more]