Adoption to Ashes

September 17th, 2013

1249882_halfway_to_heaven My birth mother passed away in February of 1999. I turned to my biological uncle for answers, who had called me on May 17, 2013.   He was unaware of her passing. He told me the last time he saw my birth mother was in 1963.  He told me that his father and mother had given birth to him, and when he was 10 months old, his mother skipped out.  A couple years later his father met up with his mother again in New York, and she became pregnant with my birth mother.  After having her, she left, and nobody ever saw her again.  As a baby, my birth mom was sent to an orphanage in… [more]

Reconnection Is Possible!

June 12th, 2012

1350860_hand-in-hand No matter where you are in the search and reunion process, it can be difficult to keep your head up and your thoughts positive. The reunion search can be a tiring journey, physically, emotionally, and mentally. And even though you may feel alone right now, you're not. There are many people out there searching, too. For some it can take just a few hours to find success. For others it takes years, even decades, to find that one person. Because reading success stories from others just like you can help you by giving your hope, motivation, and determination, here are just a few of the many reunion success stories. "I was informed at about 12pm one day that I had a brother that… [more]

Valentine Reunion Story Part 2

February 16th, 2007
Categories: Reunion, Stories

Less than 24 hours later, the natural mother whom I had been trying to reach now for well over a month finally called me. She reached my husband at home who was fully aware of why I was trying to reach this woman and he gave her my cell phone number. When she called I was taken back and as the conversation went on, I realized this person was just being cautious. The adoptee had phoned her and left a message. The natural mother decided to call me back prior to returning the adoptees call. This moment of learning that her daughter was searching for her is something that she had hoped for throughout many decades. She… [more]

Valentine Reunion Story Part 1

February 16th, 2007
Categories: Reunion, Stories

This week was Valentines Day and one of the things I realized is that Valentines Day isn’t just for lovers. It is for everyone that we love and care about. This is something that I didn’t always think or truly feel before I met my husband. Who by the way, treated me very good for Valentines Day. A few weeks ago, I received an email from a young woman who saw the registry that I maintain online and felt that there could be a match between herself and a natural mother listed on the registry. I received this initial email 2 or 3 days before my birthday. I have tried for several weeks now to reach and speak with the natural… [more]

A Happy Reunion Story Part 1

October 16th, 2006
Categories: Reunion, Stories

After being away for 6 days, I came home to a full mailbox. It took me a few days to get through all of the emails and to respond but finished this task yesterday. Yesterday was a busy day but also a rewarding one. There are times in my life that I wonder why I do what I do. Why do I continue to spend so much time on adoption search and support. There are times that I feel like I just want to let it all go and something happens to remind me that helping one individual find his or her natural mother makes it all worth while. Well, this is what happened to me yet once again… [more]

Rewarding Experiences

October 6th, 2006

A colleague in Maryland wrote to me the other day bubbling over with excitement at a find made by her search and support group. Based on the adoptive mom’s recollections of a slip of the lip, and non-id information supplied by the attorney who handled the adoption, the group was able to identify the missing birth mother in less than the two hours that they spend together once a month. They found the birth grandfather, too. It took a couple days to update the information and to identify and verify the woman’s married name but, within two days, my colleague was on the phone with the woman at the request of the searching family. The birth mother, now living in Virginia, was thrilled… [more]

Can She Find Him By Father’s Day? – Part 2

June 15th, 2006
Categories: Reunion, Stories

Part 1 ended as I listened to the answer machine message of my friend D.'s potential birth dad. The message mentioned that if you were calling regarding dog rescue, blah, blah, blah......So, I goggled "dog rescue" and the town of this potential birth dad. Voilà, their address popped up on a website for dog rescues! Call me strange, but, this seemed a very hopeful sign. I forwarded the link on to D. and told her that I had a good hunch about this man being a good possibility. We both loved that he obviously was involved with animals. Though I told her that I would try calling again the next evening if she wanted me to, I told her that maybe… [more]

My Journey – Part 2 – The Phone Call of a Lifetime

February 8th, 2006
Categories: Reunion, Stories

Remember that hot summer evening that I mentioned earlier? Here's that story: July 31, 2001 is a date seared into my memory forever. A brief, but highly significant phone call from a stranger was my entry to the world of adoption reunion. One muggy, Southern California night, I received a mysterious phone call from a social worker at the agency that had handled my son’s adoption nearly 32 years earlier. A calm, motherly sounding voice quietly told me that my son was searching for me. Her pronouncement pretty much silenced me in a heartbeat. For one of the rare moments in my life, I was rendered nearly speechless. From the moment the social worker told me that my son was searching for me, I "became" a birth mother… [more]

My Journey – Part 1

February 7th, 2006
Categories: Reunion, Stories

" The biggest myth about Southern women is that we are frail types--fainting on our sofas...nobody where I grew up every acted like that. We were about as fragile as coal trucks." --Lee Smith Now, I bet you’re scratching your head about now, wanting to know, what on earth that funny quote above has to do with anything. I like it – that’s all. Oh, and I grew up in the South and consider myself a “steel magnolia” type of Southern woman. If nothing else positive – losing my first son to adoption – did help make me a strong woman! You know that theory? “What doesn’t kill you makes you strong.” By the way, I probably should introduce myself - I'm Jan and a mother who relinquished a child… [more]