Adoptive Parents Who Help and Feel Threatened

June 14th, 2006

I think it is natural for adoptive parents to have strong conflicting emotions even if they are supportive of their child and sympathize with their need to search for a birth parent. However, for the adoptee, the longing in their spirit is to become peaceful and have a new understanding. Even though adoptive parents were supportive in the search, when the search is completed they may experience some strong conflicting emotions. They may become fearful and angry; they may also feel sorrow, jealousy, betrayal, guilt and a sense of failure. These feelings may be tangled up in feelings of sympathy, interest, relief and a sense of achievement. These conflicting feelings about the “unknown family” may be eased if the adoptive parents are able… [more]