First Contact – Part 3 – Via Flowers

March 14th, 2006

This is a method that Christi Bender posted to the forum at adoption.com. She gave me permission to offer her suggestion for first contact here: When I contacted my bmom I thought about the knock on the door method (always somewhere in a dream), but seeing as how I was in FL and she was in MI that just wasn't practical. I thought about the phone... but it would require an immediate reaction. A confused mind will generally say "no". Not always... but generally. I also didn't want to put her on the spot. I didn't know her health situation, her living situation or whether I was a secret. It didn't feel right to me. I thought about a letter... but they get lost, opened… [more]