The Learning Curve

October 10th, 2013

NEW CURVES AHEAD SIGNHaving completed registration here and nationally, I began 'The Learning Curve Era'. Consuming information in great gulps helped speed the time a bit, yet just as a curved road requires slower, more careful driving, so does this time of learning. I don't have much to offer readers in regard to time condensation here. Try to enjoy the view as you go, committing as much as possible to memory and note-taking...and remember, if not navigated rightly, you could miss a turn or even go over a cliff. The Learning Curve Era has only one real requirement...that we learn! One piece of advice I found but did not follow was to 'clear the slate'. Placing current projects on the shelf is not… [more]

International Soundex Reunion Registry (ISRR)

October 2nd, 2006
Categories: On Your Own

The Nevada Appeal published an article on July 15, 2006 titled Reunions Mean Success for Longtime Carson City Non profit. The staff writer of this article pointed out several facts that I never realized about the International Soundex Reunion Registry (ISRR). I have always known that largest international registry around. I have always encouraged triad members who are searching to register with the ISRR. I knew that the registry was founded 30+ years ago. However, I did not know that • they have a database of more than 200,000 active registrants • The registry covers more than 28 countries • The registry was mentioned in last years Parade magazine • Their website has had 3.4 million hits For those of you who don’t know, The ISRR is a non-profit, tax exempt… [more]

Obtaining Medical Records in Your Search

May 9th, 2006

An adoption search is like putting a puzzle together. Adoption is probably always going to have the shroud of mystery to it. It would take a book, not a blog to list all of the possible puzzle pieces that you may have already acquired. Trying to put the puzzle pieces together can be frustrating as well as obvious that key pieces are missing. It is frustrating at times to try and discover the mystery of your own life. Many times I have associated adoption search with Nancy Drew, The Case of the Girl without a Past. There are laws in each state that already exist in the country protecting people from unwanted contact. These laws are already in place… [more]

Using Yearbooks in Your Search

May 9th, 2006

Do you remember what you picture in your high year book look liked? Were you the class clown, most likely to succeed, or most athletic? Do you remember what the club or sports team photo in your high school year book looked like? Some people may be wondering what adoption search has to do with high school year books. Well, there are many who are searching who will use year books for assistance. Yearbooks can be very useful especially if you have a partial name or just a first name. Many public libraries have a collection of high school year books for the school districts in the area that often times go back several decades. If the public library does not… [more]

DNA and Genetics in Adoption Search

April 18th, 2006

It is a fact that humans are naturally curious about their origins. Sometimes it is not a case of curiosity but rather the need to know their origins for medical reasons. DNA and genetic testing may be an avenue you may want to travel to help solve the adoption obstacles. Genetic testing may help solve the mysteries of the past. For years I had searched for my birth father. My first personal experience with DNA was two or three years after finding my natural family. My sister’s father, had admitted that there was a possibility that he could be my natural father. He was not sure and agreed to do DNA testing to find out for sure. We had our… [more]

Searching on the Internet Part 1

March 28th, 2006

The number of folks on the internet grows daily. I am not aware of any exact numbers of how many triad members searching are using the internet as an aid in their search. Since the numbers grow every day, I thought it would be good to address searching on the internet. Search engines are a wonderful asset. You can enter the name you are searching for into a search engine in homes of finding he person listed on some website. If you put the name in quotation marks will aid you by finding the exact name you are searching for. In some cases if you enter a phone number in quotation marks the search results will give you the… [more]

Searching on the Internet Part 2

March 28th, 2006

If you haven’t noticed yet, the majority of the adoptees that search are females. However, I do think that with the internet, more male adoptees are starting to search. When I look at the PARR database, most of the folks registered are between the years of 1966-1972. There are more adoptees searching than birth moms. The opposite is true for the adoptions of the 1980’s. There are more birth mothers searching than adoptees. I think that what birth mothers were told had changed by the 1980’s and that is why they feel more free to search. As for birth fathers, there aren’t many and my guess is that some of them don’t know that this child… [more]

Data Bases and Search Guides

February 18th, 2006

"Hope is the thing with feathers that perches in the soul, And sings the tune without the words, and never stops at all." Emily Dickinson Whether you are searching, considering a search or in reunion, keep on hoping! Once you have a name, the Internet provides a wide array of databases to search for a person. Many of the databases are free of charge. Some are available only through paid subscriptions. Others may charge nominal amounts per search. There are also many search guides which provide a wealth of information about adoption search. Here are some links to data bases and/or some search guides which could be helpful to you after you have a name: Shea's Search Series An awesome collection of essays on how to begin… [more]

Self Searching

February 12th, 2006

Searching yourself is definitely the most difficult, but can also be the most rewarding, choice. As I have said in previous blogs, the advantages are the cost, the ability to go at your own pace, take a break when you need to and ability to choose whether or not you want to make first contact. For me, and I think many others, conducting your own search can be therapeutic. There are challenges along the way. What I found after I completed my search was that I enjoyed it, missed it, and chose to help others in their searches, and give back to the adoption community. In fact, it was two years after completing my search and finding a grave that I founded PARR. At first, part of… [more]