The Learning Curve

October 10th, 2013

NEW CURVES AHEAD SIGNHaving completed registration here and nationally, I began 'The Learning Curve Era'. Consuming information in great gulps helped speed the time a bit, yet just as a curved road requires slower, more careful driving, so does this time of learning. I don't have much to offer readers in regard to time condensation here. Try to enjoy the view as you go, committing as much as possible to memory and note-taking...and remember, if not navigated rightly, you could miss a turn or even go over a cliff. The Learning Curve Era has only one real requirement...that we learn! One piece of advice I found but did not follow was to 'clear the slate'. Placing current projects on the shelf is not… [more]’s Reunion Registry Hits 400,000!

December 23rd, 2010

400,'s Search and Reunion Registry has hit 400,000 individual profiles! Across the United States, profiles of those looking for long-lost family members are consistently created, making the Registry the #1 online adoption reunion registry available today. With the ever-growing number of profiles, finding a family member is and will be a reality for many. Currently, an estimated 53.5% of the Registry users are adoptees searching for a birth parent or a birth sibling.'s next highest statistical grouping is birth mothers, at 23.3% of the online profiles. The rest consist of birth siblings, birth fathers, adoptive family members, and search angels-those who aide in reuniting and reconnecting searchers. reaches out and supports all those searching for family members… [more]

Questions to Ask Your Paid Adoption Searcher

October 27th, 2009

47379_mobile_phone_searching___Reuniting with your family members can be a difficult and arduous journey. For some, the search is simple, quick, and easy. For others, it is a process-a long process, at that. Whether hiring a private detective is the first option on your list or the last option, here are some common questions to inquire about before settling on one private detective over another. What resources will be used? Find out what methods he or she regularly employs to get the job done. Are you comfortable with all the methods or resources that may be used? Your private investigator should be able to talk in depth about each resource. Not only should you be comfortable with it, he or she should also be confident… [more]

International Soundex Reunion Registry (ISRR)

October 2nd, 2006
Categories: On Your Own

The Nevada Appeal published an article on July 15, 2006 titled Reunions Mean Success for Longtime Carson City Non profit. The staff writer of this article pointed out several facts that I never realized about the International Soundex Reunion Registry (ISRR). I have always known that largest international registry around. I have always encouraged triad members who are searching to register with the ISRR. I knew that the registry was founded 30+ years ago. However, I did not know that • they have a database of more than 200,000 active registrants • The registry covers more than 28 countries • The registry was mentioned in last years Parade magazine • Their website has had 3.4 million hits For those of you who don’t know, The ISRR is a non-profit, tax exempt… [more]

Paid Searches

August 1st, 2006

A paid search is always an option but I personally don’t recommend pursuing this avenue until all other possibilities have been exhausted. If you do choose to hire a paid searcher, I would like to provide you with some guidelines for choosing one. There are many searchers out there and doing some home work, obtaining references, and educating yourself before making a decision will serve you will. There are many paid search services out there and some are reasonably priced and some are very expensive. Some can get results quickly and some not at all. There are scam artists as well as folks that have no experience with adoption reunion so educating yourself can save you time and grief. One of… [more]

State Run Intermediary Programs

July 30th, 2006

State run intermediary programs seem to vary greatly from state to state. Some allow only adopted persons to search, and others allow other birth family members to search as well. These programs are generally administered by different governmental agencies or courts. Some adoption agencies have intermediaries. The training that intermediaries receive varies from state to state. To determine if the state that you want to search in has a confidential intermediary program, click here. This site can help in this regard. I am also listing the links to several state run intermediary programs to demonstrate how varied they are. Checking out these links will clearly show you how much the policies regarding intermediaries do vary in each state… [more]

Hiring a Private Investigator or Data Search Company

May 26th, 2006

There may be a time during your search you may consider the help of a professional searcher. You may have seen ads for companies that do searchers for a flat rate or you may have been approached by people offering to do certain search tasks for a fee. Below are a few rules of thumb when considering a PI or data company. The first is to use careful judgment Ask a lot of questions. Below is a list of a few questions you may want to consider when considering hiring a PI. Is he or she currently a licensed PI? In what state or states? What professional associations doe he or she belong to? If any, are they reputable? What is their success rate with this type of… [more]

Obtaining Medical Records in Your Search

May 9th, 2006

An adoption search is like putting a puzzle together. Adoption is probably always going to have the shroud of mystery to it. It would take a book, not a blog to list all of the possible puzzle pieces that you may have already acquired. Trying to put the puzzle pieces together can be frustrating as well as obvious that key pieces are missing. It is frustrating at times to try and discover the mystery of your own life. Many times I have associated adoption search with Nancy Drew, The Case of the Girl without a Past. There are laws in each state that already exist in the country protecting people from unwanted contact. These laws are already in place… [more]

Using Yearbooks in Your Search

May 9th, 2006

Do you remember what you picture in your high year book look liked? Were you the class clown, most likely to succeed, or most athletic? Do you remember what the club or sports team photo in your high school year book looked like? Some people may be wondering what adoption search has to do with high school year books. Well, there are many who are searching who will use year books for assistance. Yearbooks can be very useful especially if you have a partial name or just a first name. Many public libraries have a collection of high school year books for the school districts in the area that often times go back several decades. If the public library does not… [more]

DNA and Genetics in Adoption Search

April 18th, 2006

It is a fact that humans are naturally curious about their origins. Sometimes it is not a case of curiosity but rather the need to know their origins for medical reasons. DNA and genetic testing may be an avenue you may want to travel to help solve the adoption obstacles. Genetic testing may help solve the mysteries of the past. For years I had searched for my birth father. My first personal experience with DNA was two or three years after finding my natural family. My sister’s father, had admitted that there was a possibility that he could be my natural father. He was not sure and agreed to do DNA testing to find out for sure. We had our… [more]