Unlocking the Past

June 1st, 2007

Unlocking the Past - A State Senator's Awakening Ignites His Crusade For The Rights Of Adoptees is a news article about a state senator and mayoral candidate and his adoption journey. Connecticut Senator Bill Finch was told when he was 8 or 9 years old that he was adopted. He says that even after that, it never occurred to him that he had "anything less than an idyllic childhood." "It was only after I started having children myself and needed access to family medical records, that I needed access to my own past, that I realized something had been taken away from me." The Senator is sponsoring a bill that would allow adoptees to obtain copies of their original birth certificates once… [more]

Mother and Son Reunion

May 24th, 2007

Mother and Child Reunion is one of those "feel good" reunion stories that warms the heart. Well, it warms your heart if you like the idea of reunions; not everyone does. Then she began to panic. Her first thought: "How am I going to lose 20 pounds overnight?" I could not help but laugh at the comment above made by the birth mother found by her son, and preparing to meet him. How many birth mothers could identify with that thought? In fact, just recently I wrote about my fussy preparations before meeting my son for that first face-to-face. This story has many of the usual elements. The birth mother never searched because she did had fears of disrupting her son's life. Yet… [more]

Tracking Down Birth Parents

May 10th, 2007

You have to love that term - "tracking down." For me it evokes an image of someone dressed in camouflage gear traipsing through the woods carrying a long rifle, and ready to aim and fire. Although I do not believe it is the best way to describe an adoption search, sometimes searching is a matter of tracking someone down. Therefore "tracking down" does not bother me. Tracking Down Biological Kids or Parents is an article about recent changes in adoption access laws in North Carolina. The reporter began this story by using "biological parents" and "tracking down" in the title of this story. Two faux paux already for those advocates of positive adoption language(PAL). Good thing I loathe much of PAL personally! This… [more]

An Adoptee Obituary

March 30th, 2007

What does an adoptee's obituary have to do with anything? Read this Chicago Sun obituary and you will find out. The two developed a friendship, and over coffee one day, she delivered the most famous line of her life: "Does the date Sept. 20, 1917, mean anything to you?" Margaret M. Skerrett, discovered when she was 10 years old that she was adopted. While working at a dentist's office when she was in her twenties, she was told that she looked a great deal like a neighborhood woman. Her name was the same name as the name on her birth certificate listed for her birth mother. The woman turned out to be a patient of the dentist that Ms. Skerrett worked for… [more]

Toby Dawson Meets His Birth Father

March 1st, 2007

Since I wrote about Toby Dawson’s search for birth family during the Olympics, here and here, I also wanted to follow-up with a post about his reunion with his birth father. There is even a video showing their tearful reunion. "I've been waiting for you for a long time," Dawson told his Korean father when they met in front of reporters. His story boggles the mind. It is difficult to comprehend the differences in cultures sometimes, and this story does involve a country with a culture quite different I believe from ours in many respects. Maybe not, but I see it that way. Toby Dawson’s biological father “lost” his son in a market one day when he was… [more]

“Adoption Reunions Can be Iffy”

February 23rd, 2007

Sheesh, life can be "iffy" too, right? This article offers several reunion stories and references the uncertainty of reunions. Although I am not wild about the less than positive title of this story, I always enjoy reunion stories. For people considering a search, reading about reunions may serve to assure you that many of your feelings are very normal. People considering a search may need to understand that they are not alone, and that many others feel as they do. Some strong advocates of search and reunion always like to present reunions in a wholly positive light. Although I do enjoy happy reunion stories, I think that it is better to provide a balance. Reunions do vary a great deal, and people considering… [more]

The Newest Political Adoption Story

January 31st, 2007

Gov. Charlie Crist denied he fathered a child 17 years ago. But some wonder whether he has an ethical duty to prove it. I’m telling you, there is a new trend on the horizon. The trend involves adoption and politics. First, a presidential candidate, who happens to be an adoptee is considering a search for his birth mother. Then, another politician discovers a sibling who ends up attending his swearing-in eremony. The current story

Parking Violation Leads to Adoption Records – Part 1

January 30th, 2007

Just when you think you have heard all there is to hear, along comes a story like this one! How a parking violation could be related to adoption is a weak possibility. However, if I can walk down the street, see a hole in a fence and relate that to adoption, I suppose anything is possible. (Yes, I can relate a hole to adoption, but I will blog about that on my firstparent blog later in the week.) David Munro was searching a state-run court records database late last year looking for his parking citation when he stumbled across a piece of his son's confidential adoption record. The story in the Milwaukee Journal Sentinel is as described above. An adoptive dad was looking… [more]

Son’s Search for His Birth Mother

January 26th, 2007

A man who spent the first minutes of his life wrapped in a towel on the larder shelf of a house in Portadown, has returned to his birthplace in search of his past. From Great Britain comes this story about a young man who returned to the house where he was born and abandoned 35 years ago. A young woman left him at a stranger's house shortly after giving birth. Apparently, the young woman who was described as probably a "school girl in trouble" knocked on the door of a home. She was in labor and the homeowner offered her tea and then set off to find a phone to call for medical help. By the time she returned, the mother… [more]

A Birth Mother’s Legacy to Her Children

January 5th, 2007

We wouldn't have cared a bit about the mistakes she had made. We wouldn't have judged her. We would have understood. Adoption stories are in the news often these days. However, I never tire of reunion stories as many have such varied and interesting twists and turns. This story is no exception. I loved the positive attitude of the adoptee in this story as well. She could have become embittered because not only did her birth mom did not seek reunion, she took extreme measures to keep her mistakes hidden. Instead, she chose to appreciate her siblings and be grateful to her birth mother that they exist. The comments about how misguided her birth mom was in her… [more]