Of Pit Stops and Lessons Learned

October 21st, 2013

NEW STOP SIGNNo one likes pit stops. They slow us down in the race; make us feel like we’re losing ground. Stopping was never part of my agenda. But pit stops are necessary. They give us gas to keep going, maintenance to get there in one piece and often, errors in judgment are revealed so they can be corrected. These are the things that contribute to that ultimate victory. And such it is in life. Finding my non-identifying information turned out to be a three-part process that included two wild-goose chases. But each chase brought me closer to my treasure and in the process; I shed some emotional baggage while also gaining greater trust in the goodness of people. I had read… [more]

The Learning Curve

October 10th, 2013

NEW CURVES AHEAD SIGNHaving completed registration here and nationally, I began 'The Learning Curve Era'. Consuming information in great gulps helped speed the time a bit, yet just as a curved road requires slower, more careful driving, so does this time of learning. I don't have much to offer readers in regard to time condensation here. Try to enjoy the view as you go, committing as much as possible to memory and note-taking...and remember, if not navigated rightly, you could miss a turn or even go over a cliff. The Learning Curve Era has only one real requirement...that we learn! One piece of advice I found but did not follow was to 'clear the slate'. Placing current projects on the shelf is not… [more]

Adoption Search Series – Step by Step – Part 5

February 16th, 2007

Step 5 is to obtain your non-identifying ("Non-id")information. This information will generally come from the adoption agency or the state. Although the non-id is designated to provide information, it is not generally enough to locate birth parents or adoptees. However, later on in a search some of its clues can help to verify that you have the correct person. This link will direct you to some previous blogs about the non-id information. Nearly every state allows the release of non-id, a few states even allow identifying information to be provided. In some states, the non-id may include first names of a birth parent or adoptee. However, this is fairly unusual. Before a searcher or search angel will begin to work on your… [more]

Why the Non-ID is so Important

August 29th, 2006

One of the initial tasks in searching is gathering information and documents. It is obvious why some documents are important. However, you may not understand the significance of others. One of the first documents that you are generally instructed to try to obtain is your non-identifying ("non-ID"). It comes from the agency or state in most instances. There are many clues in the non-identifying information, even though you may not immediately recognize them. For instance, the occupation of the birth parents are often listed in the non-id information. Initially this fact may not seem important. After you have a name for one of your birth parents, it may become highly significant. Many people can be tracked through their… [more]

Non Identifying Information

August 23rd, 2006

In nearly all States, adoption records are sealed and withheld from public inspection after the adoption is finalized. Most States have instituted procedures by which parties to an adoption may obtain non identifying and identifying information from an adoption record while still protecting the interests of all parties. Non identifying information is generally limited to descriptive details about an adopted person and the adopted person’s birth relatives and is provided to the adopting parents at the time of the adoption. Non identifying information may include the following: Date and place of the adopted person’s birth Age of the birth parents and general physical description, such as eye and hair color Race, ethnicity, religion, and medical history of the birth parents Educational level of the birth parents and… [more]

What is Non ID?

April 20th, 2006

Non-identifying information is information that may be obtained in most states from the agency or county that handled the adoption. Most agencies and counties require the request be made in writing. The information that may be provided will vary from agency to agency, court to court, and from state to state. Non identifying information that is usually provided is: Information in regards to Natural Parents: Age of the natural parents at the time or birth or surrender Place of Birth Physical description of natural parents Religion Education Hobbies Family history and some information on the natural parents family Reason for surrender Information in regards to the adopters: Ages of parents Place of birth Physical Description of parents Length of marriage Religion Education Hobbies Composition of family-if there are other children Reason for adoption The information in the adoption file that pertains to the… [more]

The Scoop on Non-Id Info

March 24th, 2006

Whenever someone begins a search, one of the first steps to take is to obtain your non-identifying information. What you find on your own copy of your non-id may vary depending on who compiled it. It just dawned on me recently that nothing was ever mentioned to me about non-identifying information when I relinquished my son. No one told me that based on the facts that I gave them, that they would be putting together a few sheets of information that my son would someday receive. I do recall that they asked me some basic questions about both me and birth dad. However, I figured that it was all routine information that would simply be in the file. I thought that… [more]

How to Use Your Non-Id

February 28th, 2006

Your non-identifying information may not seem particularly useful in the beginning of your search. However, later on, it can provide many clues which may help you narrow your search. To make the best use of your non-id, I suggest that you spend some time with someone who really understands the clues it contains. For instance:  It could help you to narrow down the states in which you search. If your non-identifying info states where your birth mom grew up, you know that could be one state to search in. Many birth moms left their homes, or were sent away to give birth.  If your birth parents' ages are listed on your non-id, that would help narrow down people with similar names once… [more]

Non Identifying Information

February 13th, 2006

"Non-identifying information" is referred to as information given to an adoptee about their adoption and birth family. A very few states define within their statutes what constitutes non-identifying information, and makes provisions for its release through agencies and courts. In some states non-ID is not defined, which leaves it up to the court or agency releasing the information to determine what to give or what not to give you. In general non-ID' will include some or all of the following about one's birth parents: • ages • occupation(s) • level of education • race and/or ethnicity • religion • physical description • hobbies • talents • marital status • medical history • circumstances surrounding the adoption There are a few lucky folks who may receive the first names of the birth parents, medical history, ages, and information on extended birth… [more]