Of Pit Stops and Lessons Learned

October 21st, 2013

NEW STOP SIGNNo one likes pit stops. They slow us down in the race; make us feel like we’re losing ground. Stopping was never part of my agenda. But pit stops are necessary. They give us gas to keep going, maintenance to get there in one piece and often, errors in judgment are revealed so they can be corrected. These are the things that contribute to that ultimate victory. And such it is in life. Finding my non-identifying information turned out to be a three-part process that included two wild-goose chases. But each chase brought me closer to my treasure and in the process; I shed some emotional baggage while also gaining greater trust in the goodness of people. I had read… [more]


October 6th, 2013

NEW CRACK IN WALLAh, Readers! Bear with me, please, as I get my feet beneath me navigating the Adoption.com site! Having been given permissions to blog in several categories here, I found in retrospect that I had posted under 'adoptee' rather than here under "Adoption Search''.  Please read the posts at the links given as they really do give the MOST important things to do prior to beginning a search. Here are the links: "Again and Again I Say, Prepare!" ; "Avoiding the Undertow". In an upcoming article, (not here in the blog section), you will read of my "Box Full of Matches". This is like a tool box, with each match… [more]

My Biological Mother

May 15th, 2013

mothers heartMother’s Day was always a time of year I would wonder about my biological mother. When I was younger I knew I was adopted but didn’t know details, like my parents’ names or birthdays, so Hallmark Holidays such as Mother’s Day and Father’s Day usually were what would trigger reflection for me. Growing up, when I would think about my mother (biological) I would wonder many things. What did she look like? What did her voice sound like? Did she think about me too? Did she remember my birthday? Did she still love me? Did she regret the choice she made? There was a point in my life that I even went as far as writing a fictional story about… [more]

Social Security Death Index Part 3

November 27th, 2006
Categories: Documents, Documents

When using the Social Security Death Index and viewing the field “last residence” try to remember that this is the address of record. It does not mean that this is the place of death. A perfect example is an elderly couple who had a summer home in the Northeast and a winter home in the south. The husband had passed on while residing in Florida but in the search results of the Social Security Death Index last residence is listed as a northern state. Many people have two official addresses especially if summer and winter home is involved. Another thought to keep in mind when using the Social Security Death Index is that the zip codes shown are those that… [more]

Social Security Death Index Part 2

November 27th, 2006
Categories: Documents, Documents

When searching the Social Security Death Index you can search b y date of birth and date of death as well as where a person lived and applied for their social security number. This is often times where the office that issued the Social Security number was located. You can also search using the residence at time of death which is the address of record but not necessarily where they lived or died and finally where the burial allowance or death benefit was sent. According to the Social Security Administration a Social Security Number is composed of three parts totally nine digits. The first three digits is called the area number, the second set of two digits is called the group… [more]

Social Security Death Index Part 1

November 24th, 2006
Categories: Documents, Documents

President Franklin Roosevelt said in a radio address on the third anniversary of the social security act on August 14, 1938 “"Long before the economic blight of the depression descended on the Nation, millions of our people were living in wastelands of want and fear. Men and women too old and infirm to work either depended on those who had but little to share, or spent their remaining years within the walls of a poorhouse. The Social Security Act offers to all our citizens a workable and working method of meeting urgent present needs and of forestalling future need”. Some of you may or may not realize this but the first Social Security card was issued December 1, 1936 and on January 1, 1937… [more]

Searching in OH

November 6th, 2006
Categories: Documents, Documents

If you were born in OH you may be able to access copies of certain documents in your adoption file. To be specific, section 3107.38 of the Ohio Revised Code provides that an adopted person whose birth occurred in OH and whose adoption was finalized prior to January 1, 1964 may request in writing to receive copies of the contents of an adoption file. In order to request these documents you must complete a form called “affidavit for adopted person”. This form can be obtained at http://www.odh.ohio.gov/vitalstatistics/legalinfo/adoptpri.aspx In addition, two forms of identification and a $20 fee that became effective October 25, 1996 is required to be attached to the request. This fee should be made payable to Treasury, State… [more]

Requesting Original Birth Certificate in NH

October 31st, 2006
Categories: Documents

On May 12, 2004 Senate Bill 335 became NH law with an effective date of January 1, 2005. The legislation passed, allows adult adoptees (18 years of age or older) who has had an original birth certificate removed from vital statistics records due to an adoption. The registrar will issue a non certified copy of the unaltered, original certificate of birth of the adoptee with procedures, filing fees, and waiting periods that are the same as non adopted citizens of the state. In order for an adoptee to obtain a copy of the original birth certificate he or she must be born in NH. This legislation also allows natural parents to fill out contact preference forms that describe… [more]

Requesting Original Birth Certficate in Delaware

October 31st, 2006
Categories: Documents

As I have mentioned before DE is one of the few states that permits an adoptee to obtain a copy of their original birth certificate if their natural parent has not filed a disclosure veto. What this means for the adoptee is that if there is a disclosure veto on file, the adoptee will not be able to obtain a copy of their original birth certificate. The adoptee who is requesting would be notified accordingly. How the disclosure veto works is when the adoptee files an application for their original birth certificate Vital Statistics sends out a notice to the natural mother to the best address they can find. Vital Statistics checks voter registration and driver’s license records. As you… [more]

Searching for Marriage License

September 15th, 2006
Categories: Documents

Marriage records are open to the public, as well as divorce records. If you know either of your natural parent’s names you can go to the Marriage License office in the local court house and a clerk will assist you in checking for a marriage license. You need only the first and last name of the person you are searching for since most localities are indexed by both parties’ names who are applying for the license. Ask for a 10 year search of records after your birth. If you can't find records for your natural parents, check for possible relatives. You always want to do your own research. It may be beneficial to ask the clerk to show you how to use… [more]