Natural Mother Seven Core Issues in Adoption

September 27th, 2006

As I said in my previous blog, the seven core issues in adoption effect all triad members. This blog is going to focus on these issues and the natural mothers. The first is loss and this is something that ruminates about the lost child for the natural mother. The initial loss merges with other life events and can lead to social isolation, changes in body and self image. There is also the relationship losses between the natural mother and their child relinquished to adoption and even between the natural mother and natural father. The second is rejection and this is where the natural mother may reject themselves as irresponsible, and unworthy because they permit adoption. They may turn these feelings against… [more]

Adoptee Seven Core Issues in Adoption

September 26th, 2006

The experiences of adoption triad members are all different but there are some feelings and issues that all triad members have in common through out the course of their lives. It is important to recognize these similarities. In this 3 part series of blogs, I am going to try and point out how each triad member is effected by the seven core issues of adoption. For adoptees the first is loss and how that effects the adoptee is it is a fear of ultimate abandonment, loss of their biological, genetic and cultural history as well as issues of holding on and letting go. The second is rejection and for the adoptee this is personalize placement for adoption as rejection, issues of self… [more]

7 Core Issues in Adoption – Part 4

May 1st, 2006

Intimacy being the sixth core issue in adoption is the loss, feelings of rejection, shame and grief, and incomplete sense of self may hinder the development of intimacy for triad members. Triad members avoid possible reenactment of previous losses is to avoid closeness and commitment. Triad members may hold back a part of themselves in a relationship. There may be difficulties in bonding and attachment. Intamacy issues may be more obvious in relationships with members of the opposite sex because of questions in regards to conception, biological or genetic concerns and sexuality. Natural parents may feel that sex, intimacy, and pregnancy leads to pain. This will lead the natural parents to avoid additional loss by avoiding intimate relationships. Mastery/Control Adoption changes the course of… [more]