It Is Not Only About Me

October 10th, 2013

    When I first decided to search for my birth mom, I was conflicted about telling my adoptive parents.  I started the search, and then one day I got a phone call from a Joan I had called earlier.  My mom was sitting in our guest bedroom at the time, and saw me run upstairs after I answered the phone.  I came downstairs, and my mom was concerned.  She asked who was on the phone, because they way I ran upstairs, she thought it was bad news.  I looked at her, and decided I would tell her the journey I had started on a couple months before.  She looked at me, and her only response was, "Oh, ok."  Now, my mother is one of those whose non verbal cues speak volumes.  I knew she was… [more]

Natural Family Relationships

May 22nd, 2006

Many triad members will say that they were the closest to their new found family member the first day they were together. This day may be an entire day or evening together looking at pictures and discussing the family the adoptee was born into but never knew. As time goes on the natural mother may feel as if there is too much connected with relinquishing her child to adoption and for many natural mothers to difficult to face. This may result in a superficial relationship where cards are sent to one another several times a year. Some triad members have described their initial face to face as euphoric. Each reunion member may feel proud of the other and themselves. The good feelings many times… [more]