It Is Not Only About Me

October 10th, 2013

    When I first decided to search for my birth mom, I was conflicted about telling my adoptive parents.  I started the search, and then one day I got a phone call from a Joan I had called earlier.  My mom was sitting in our guest bedroom at the time, and saw me run upstairs after I answered the phone.  I came downstairs, and my mom was concerned.  She asked who was on the phone, because they way I ran upstairs, she thought it was bad news.  I looked at her, and decided I would tell her the journey I had started on a couple months before.  She looked at me, and her only response was, "Oh, ok."  Now, my mother is one of those whose non verbal cues speak volumes.  I knew she was… [more]

Questions to Ask Your Paid Adoption Searcher

October 27th, 2009

47379_mobile_phone_searching___Reuniting with your family members can be a difficult and arduous journey. For some, the search is simple, quick, and easy. For others, it is a process-a long process, at that. Whether hiring a private detective is the first option on your list or the last option, here are some common questions to inquire about before settling on one private detective over another. What resources will be used? Find out what methods he or she regularly employs to get the job done. Are you comfortable with all the methods or resources that may be used? Your private investigator should be able to talk in depth about each resource. Not only should you be comfortable with it, he or she should also be confident… [more]

Birth Mother Privacy – A Myth or Reality?

May 2nd, 2007

Here we go again. This article discusses the open records issue as legislation is under way in North Carolina to change laws re acess. "This is a very tough thing to balance -- the privacy of a birth parent against the search by an adoptee for their own personal information," said Brinton Wright, a Greensboro adoption lawyer and board member of a children's home. Has anyone else noticed when discussing birth parent privacy, you rarely see birth parents quoted? Why do you suppose that is the case? Does everyone else really know what birth parents want? If you read many newspaper articles, you will see quotes from everyone BUT birth parents about how we need our privacy. Who stands up the most and… [more]

All Adoption Records Were Open in the U.S.

April 5th, 2007

Advocates for closed adoption records tout the secrecy and closed nature of adoption and infer that is how it has always been. However, when legal adoption began in the United States, all records were open. Adoption records were open in every single state in the country. Yet by 1960, more than half of all states had shut down access to modern adoption records, often in response to a 1941 amendment to the Social Security Act that required child welfare records be kept confidential. Some states took this to mean that adoption records needed to be sealed. A number of other factors contributed to the trend in sealing adoption records. Most states followed the dictates of the time and closed records in their states. However… [more]

Newspaper fights to Open Records

March 27th, 2007

A newspaper in Indiana is fighting to open adoption records in Indiana in a specific adoption case. A law is currently being considered in the state as well to make it a misdemeanor to accept anything of value for arranging surrogate births in the state. The Indianapolis Star on Thursday filed a petition to open records in the case, which is pitting Indiana's adoption secrecy law against the public's right to know how the courts do business. Their efforts to open adoption records in Indiana is detailed in this story as the Indiana Court of Appeals reviews the case of a 60-year old man who hired a surrogate to have twin daughters for him. You might remember this story. The adoptive dad of the now… [more]

Proposed Bill to Provide More Information for Adoptees

March 10th, 2007

This bill has been proposed in Illinois to help provide more medical information for adoptees. But the bill touches on one of the sorest spots in the national adoption debate. At issue is how much information should be provided to adult adoptees about their parents. A 29-year-old Port Byron woman after suffering two miscarriages, now has a healthy son. She wondered about her family medical history with each miscarrage. Yet, she knows nothing of any family medical history that her son might benefit from knowing. She is adopted. The proposed legislation will require full disclosure of family medical problems at the time of adoption. Sounds like a step in the right direction, right? Is this really the answer to providing medical information to adoptees? Think… [more]

Sperm Donor “Dad” Meets the Children

February 19th, 2007

Mr. Harrison had been thinking about getting in touch since reading in an article in The New York Times 15 months ago that two teenagers whose mothers had used his sperm to conceive were looking for him. Since there is not much etiquette to refer to for sperm donors, this man arbitrarily picked Valentine's Day to announce himself whose mothers had used his sperm to conceive. Hmmm, I do not quite know what to think of that! Apparently, he did announce himself to children that he already knew wanted to know his identity. The term "dad" I put in quotes because I am not certain that I consider a sperm donor a father. There was no intention to ever be a father, right? Although… [more]

Tennessee’s Journey to Open Records

January 26th, 2007
Categories: Open Records

The photo accompanying this post is the State Capitol of Tennessee, the state where I grew up. Tennessee is one of the few states where an adoptee can get their original birth certificate at age 21. Their state law does allow for the birth certificates to be restricted, however, if a veto is in the file from a birth parent. I found this article at adoption.com which gives some background information about how the quest to open the records in Tennessee was inspired. The journey began with a need that Caprice East had for medical information. Opponents of open records are quoted in the article with worries that the Tennessee case would cause records to open all over the country. All sorts of… [more]

CO Original Birth Certificates Part 1

January 4th, 2007
Categories: Open Records

Effective January 1, 2007 adult adoptees may get their original birth certificate in CO if certain criteria is met. It is my understanding that CO passed this law a year ago and was supposed to have a state and national awareness campaign but that hasn’t seemed to have happened for whatever reason. You can access the CO law on Lexis Nexis at http://198.187.128.12/colorado/lpext.dll?f=templates&fn=fs-main.htm&2.0 and click your way to title 19 section 5-305. If I am understanding correctly adult adoptees and natural parents who have been previously reunited may obtain the adoptees original birth certificate due to a new law. In other words, if your adoption was finalized prior to 9-1-1999 upon presentation of a certified order and proper identification that… [more]

NJ Advertising Dollars

December 15th, 2006
Categories: Open Records

An interesting article appeared in the opinion section in the Courier Post Online on December 7, 2006. The link to the article is listed above. Apparently, the legislation in NJ that would provide adoptees access to their birth records was changed prior to the vote on Monday. The original legislation proposed one million dollars over 12 months for advertising the open access to adoptees birth records being granted. The thought process was to significantly amplify the proposed change so that natural parents who do not wish to be contacted can protect their privacy. The latest bill now under consideration by an Assembly committee has whittled the advertising funding to $90,000. According to the article, one billboard in Salem… [more]