Adoption reunion registries can sometimes match people quickly. However, most registries are mutual consent registries and only work when both parties sign up.

Many people are not aware of these registries which cuts down on the probability that they will result in a match. However, with the popularity of the Internet, I believe that more people find their way to registries every day. Reunite.com's registry currently has over 300,000 people registered. Below are some points to regarding the... more

My Two Mothers is the title of a post written by a new blogger that I just discovered. Like Mo, Korean blogger at adoptionblogs.com, she is an adoptee and an adoptive parent as well. Her post "My Two Mothers" is chock full of her insights and observations. The most profound part of this post is this statement:

"If you cannot see my mother in me, then you are not truly seeing me."

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In this post, I introduced you to a new blogging birth dad. I mentioned that in his second post that he asked some questions that I decided to answer via a post. As he is in a new reunion, like most of us who have traveled his path, he probably has many questions.

"Since the reunion started the thoughts of it can be very obsessive – does the obsession every slow down?"

For most of us, the obsessive part of reunion does eventually calm... more

We know they’re out there. Biological reality. But birthfathers are the most silent members of the adoption constellation. - Birthfather.com

The network of blogging triad members just keeps growing by leaps and bounds. Dads are beginning to join in the fun too, and I think that is a terrific development. I will credit Judy, aka Nate's Mom for mentioning this new birth dad blog which he calls Rambling B-Dad. This dad is brand new to blogging with his first post on April 6, 2007.... more

Did you see an email message recently that said the Chicken Soup for the Soul publishers were planning a new book, Chicken Soup for the Adopted Soul? The announcement touted the fact that the book would be edited by LeAnne Theiman, an adoptive mom.

Thieman is also co-author of Chicken Soup for the Nurse’s Soul, Chicken Soup for the Christian Woman’s Soul, Chicken Soup for the Caregiver’s Soul, Chicken Soup for the Father and Daughter Soul, Chicken Soup for the Grandma’s Soul, Chicken Soup for the Christian Soul 2 and Chicken Soup for the Mother and Son... more

Do you think it would help if all triad members try to gain a more global perspective about what happened to each of the members involved in adoption. Especially since most triad members carry shame, guilt, fear, and a tremendous sense of loss. Some adoptees may have a belief that there must have been something inherently wrong with us. It is about being the “bad baby” and blaming the natural mother. This is how some try to understand what happened to us and why we feel the way we do.

Is there a lack of understanding... more

The 18th annual statewide conference titled Adoption 2007: Making Dreams Come True will be held May 10-12, 2007 at the Marriott Hotel in Albany, New York. They have planned an exciting lineup of nationally known speakers and workshops that will provide up to date information on the most important issues in adoption today.

You can learn more about the conference by visiting the website http://www.nysccc.org/. The conference brochure is available in a PDF file format, there is a description of the workshops... more

The Stork Market by Mirah Ruben is an in depth examination of the corruption in the adoption industry: the fine line between black and gray market adoptions; scams; coercion and explanation in a market based on supply and demand with prices based on quality such as age and skin color of the merchandise and set as high as desperate consumers are willing to pay.

The Stork Market has been extensively researched, documented and including interviews with the top adoption experts. The Stork Market asks if adoption can be fixed where the money aspect is removed... more

Several months ago, I received an advance copy of a fictional work written by adoptee, S.T. Underdahl. Ms. Underdahl is a neuropsychologist in private practice. Although the book is fiction, it is based loosely on the author's own personal reunion story and is described as suitable reading for young adults.

The Other Sister is about Josey Mueller, who comes up against challenges much like Ms. Underdahl's own sister did. At age 16, when Josey is typically trying to find her own identity and place in the world, her world is turned upside down. A sister appears... more

Step Four is to sign up with free registries.

The most highly recommended registries to begin with are:

1.International Soundex Reunion Registry (aka Soundex) is one of the most popular free international registries. It also is highly publicized and has an impeccable reputation for quick matches and honesty.

2. Reunite.com - The registry at reunite.com (a division of adoption.com)is also well known and successful. They have... more