Life may not be the party we hoped for, but while we're here we should dance. Unknown.

The photo accompanying this post looks serene and like a peaceful relaxing spot. Right now, it reflects how I feel after five years of reunion. I mostly feel at peace with the relationship with my son. Some days I wish for more, but I try to concentrate on appreciating what I do have.

As for the fact of his adoption, I am resigned to the fact that I cannot turn back time. I do not accept that it should have happened, and... more

Although I wasn’t able to meet or have a relationship with my birth mother I do have a deep sense of knowing that we are both truly connected. Over the past several years I have realized I not only have healed but also continue to heal more and more as each day goes by. This has also helped me to access more of my own heart and allowed me to feel more. As the years pass, I miss my birth mother in a deeper way but at the same time feel more peace with her as well.

Several years ago I read a short story and what impressed me the most were the words to one sentence... more

The answer to this will depend on what you hoped to get out of it. Most people however will say that they are glad they did it. There is a whole spectrum of eventual relationships - from those where a close emotional bond develops, to those where people are disappointed and disillusioned by what they find, and the large range in the middle where there are ups and downs. It may take some time before you feel able to evaluate what is has meant. People often talk of needing about two years to get through all the stages of adjustment to this new relationship with each other. For... more