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06/27/06

Adoptees' Responsibilties at Reunion

Posted by : Jan Baker in Adoption Search Blog at 12:25 am , 360 words, 77 views
Categories: Reponsibilities, Adoptees

Recently I wrote about ways to support a birth mom at reunion. However, if you are an adoptee with a birth mom in reunion, it is not your job to "fix" her. Take care of yourself and let her do the same. I know that you may want to help her, but, it is not your responsibility to heal her. Only she can do that.

She needs to deal with her issues on her own, in a support group and/or with an adoption therapist. Do not feel guilty for having found her - it is a good thing. Even if she struggles in the beginning of reunion, your finding her was the right thing to do. For many... more

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