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08/26/06

Shame in adoption

Posted by : Jan Baker in Adoption Search Blog at 05:53 pm , 520 words, 72 views
Categories: Triad Issues, Birth Mothers, Issues, Shame

One day, Tony confessed that he didn't like being the skeleton in someone's closet. He didn't like being the object of shame. With this, I was faced by a choice: I could, in essence, lose my son a second time to shame and society's approbation, or I could choose differently this time, claiming my son and his place in my life.

Recently, I have commented on how I sometimes long for lighter subjects. You know...funny comments made by my children or cute things that they have done. Many of our bloggers have young children, and... more

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