I strongly believe that a successful reunion is based on four preparation steps before contact is made. These steps apply to all triad members who are searching.

The first one is: Give up “The Fantasy”. Let go of the image you have of the person you are searching for. No one can live in a fantasy world especially someone who is riding the reunion rollercoaster. The person searching should be ready to accept the person they find because of who they are. The reality is that they are probably not who you fantasized about.

The second thing is: Decide... more

What happens when one person wants a continuing relationship, and the other one does not? What happens what there are conflicting ideas as to how a relationship develops? I understand that it is extremely difficult and at times, painful if one party wants a relationship, and the other one does not. Alternatively, if one party wants a closer relationship than the other does, trouble may arise.

Ultimately, you have to respect and be sensitive to the desires of the other party. Compromises can sometimes be reached. There is also a possibility that you may just... more

Reunion – what happens after the first contact or the first meeting? Rarely does everyone instantly mesh into one big happy family like this adorable fantasy group strolling down the street. Ask five reunited adoptees or birth parents about their reunion. You may receive an equal number of varied responses. Many relationships develop after the initial flurry of interest.

There are also situations in which the initial contact provides enough answers that one party in reunion may not need a need for further contact. This is especially hurtful when the other party... more

"The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen nor touched but are felt in the heart."

- Helen Bradley

Happy Valentine's Day to All! In honor of Valentine's Day, I decided to post a second photo of my son and me. As I have probably mentioned, our reunion is 4 1/2 years old, and I do not have many photos of us together. However, I treasure those that I do have and am very proud and grateful for them. For me, reunion photos are visual reminders of what reunion is all about. I believe reunion is often a journey of the heart to repair that missing... more