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04/17/06

Our First Face to Face Visit - Part 1

Posted by : Jan Baker in Adoption Search Blog at 01:28 am , 327 words, 48 views
Categories: Reunion, First Face to Face

Life is not measured by the breaths we take but by the moments that take our breath away.

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In August of 2001, my son and I first began to communicate with each other. He had found me through a mediator on July 31, 2001. Our first contact was days after the agency had received all the paperwork to allow them to provide identifying information to both of us. After our initial talk on the telephone (2 hours long), we began emailing... more

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04/13/06

The First Meeting

Posted by : Karen Sterner in Adoption Search Blog at 02:06 pm , 542 words, 48 views
Categories: First Face to Face

One thing that is very important once contact is made is mutual respect. In fact, it is essential that you all mutually agree to respect and accept one another.

When meeting face to face, it should be planned based on the pace of the slowest person. You may have searched and had several years to prepare for this but the person you have found has not. They need this time to prepare themselves. First contact is often a huge shock to the person who has been found.

After contact has been made, the next step is to set up a face to face meeting assuming that... more

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